Okay, this guy works at our shop, He is 21 and I am 14. I have a slight crush on him. And once he has winked at me. It's only a slight crush, so is it wrong?
2007-01-11 19:04:27 · 21 answers · asked by Fleur 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
That is disgusting, he is a man and you are a child.
2007-01-11 19:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is normal at your age to have crushes on older guys... BUT he is 7 years older than you. The wink he gave you could be a friend wink so I would not read into it. Maybe in a few years if you still like him then it may be a bit better as you will be an adult but at the moment he would only look at you as a kind of little sister figure
2007-01-12 03:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Its not wrong to have any kind of crush on someone. It is the possible actions resulting from the crush that people feel is wrong.
Now, if you two were "going out", that is not appropriate, because of the age difference. A guy that age should not be looking at a girl so young, really.
2007-01-12 03:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe, no it's not wrong at all that you have a crush on him, just remember that there is a 7 year difference between you two, and he's is not looking for a 14 year old. So as long as you know nothing will go further than your crush of course its fine.
2007-01-12 04:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for you to have just a crush on him... but it is not okay for him to have a crush on you. Older men don't have the purest of intentions and honestly what could a 21 year old want with a 14 year old beyond something wrong. If he is flirting with you... stay as far away from him as possible.
2007-01-12 03:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just way too much of an age difference. It's okay to have a crush on someone, but focus on guys closer to your age. He was just probably being friendly when he winked at you. Once again, focus on guys your age
2007-01-12 04:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought you were 13, any way, you said you had a slight crush so it may not even last, it is not wrong have a crush it is not even wrong to fall in love, all you have to do is to control yourself. Maybe he winked at only to say hi, don't take it too far.
All the best lovergirl!!!! (haahhaa!!)
2007-01-12 05:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that he is old enough to know better then to encourage you, it's okay to have a crush on an older guy, it's prolly healthy as long as you understand that it is a crush ( passing phase) and will do exactly that, pass, it is against the law for him to react to your advances and if you care about this guy even a little you will remember that fact, smile and move on to someone closer to your own age!
2007-01-12 03:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is what wrong?? your crush or the guy winking at you? The crush you have on him is not wrong it's normal. The wink I'm sure was just something innocent don't take it the wrong way.
2007-01-12 03:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by cavigirl17 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not necessarily wrong to have a crush on an older guy. all girls do. however, actually doing stuff with him can make him a criminal...in the states, if a person of or older than the legal age has sex with someone under the lega age, that's considered statuatory rape. also don't meet this guy alone, okay? it's dangerous...one of my friends was raped that way ): it was horrible, don't let that happen to you.
in summary, it's okay to have a crush on him but it's not okay to get serious. and i'm your age, by the way (:
2007-01-12 05:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong for you to have a crush on him thats just girls I mean after all don't all girls have crushes on movies stars and how old are they? What would be wrong though is for him to wink at you unless it was being friendly which I doubt his too old for you let it be a crush and youll see youll get over it! :)
2007-01-12 03:15:03 · answer #11 · answered by sheila99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋