I am a cashier. I've been there for about 4 months. There's another girl who's been there about 10 months. Anyway, I have no problems with anyone at work except for her. She just seems to have a chip on her shoulder, and directs it at me. I've had it up "to here" and I'm scared I may snap at her. Please help.
She's 19, and an immature 19 at that. I'm only 24, but I feel like we're eons apart. There are plenty of other workers younger than me who I have no issue with, but she's different. How can I explain it... Well... it will probably sound conceited, and sorry for that. But I think it's the truth so I'll just say it.
I kind of think she sees me as a threat for various reasons. Before I came, she was basically the "hot blonde" at work. Now it seems that I've taken attention from her. *I* do not care about this. I have a boyfriend and that stuff doesn't matter to me. But it seems kind of obvious that it bothers her.
She constantly tries to find ways to make me
2007-01-11 18:45:22 · 6 answers · asked by Holly 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
look bad. Silly, petty things. You know what I mean... the person who always try to say things extra loud in the presence of superiors and make it appear as though you're making mistakes (even if you're not). Well that's her.
She also knows that our boss (she is a woman, so don't go there) likes me. Honestly, I'm just much more professional in the way I approach both customers and co-workers. This girl is very rude to both.
She has resented me pretty much since day 1. I think she just doesn't like me for a few reasons:
a) the looks factor
b) the superiors' opinion factor
c) I don't party and gossip with people at work, and apparently that makes me "uncool" or something.
PLEASE help. It's driving me crazy. I have said a couple of quippy things to her in the last couple of days cause it's getting hard to hold my tongue. If we were anywhere but work there's no way she'd get away with talking to me the way she does. But I'm TRYING to be professional...
2007-01-11 18:49:15 · update #1
*To be clear, I have no issue with her being blonde. I am too. (Although mine didn't come from a bottle, but that's another story.) I just mentioned that because I think she sees me as competition because of that. It's really stupid...
2007-01-11 18:54:22 · update #2
Age 24 and 19 are far apart in world of thinking and actions...
continue to be the adult--let her act childish....others see that--esp far older adult supervisors................they know the deal........
seen it hundreds of times..................
point is....stay within yourself--that is what leaders do...future supervisors and managers ect....
learn to lead by being patience....
soon you'll be moving up and she'll be moving out................
attention getters like her cannot be trusted...................and higher ups know that.......
continue to learn and hustle to advance.......
study to show thyself approval.........
and master (bridle the tongue) the urge to speak out and you
will overcome stumbling blocks she puts up in front of you...because she will trip over one soon enough...
her mind isn't on quality work--errors or worse work will show..............
even calling in sick-late-leaving early--even asking people to cover..
maybe coming up short in register.....ect..................
make sure she does not handle yours........................
just be the best and don't make it known to others but ask management about poss advancement opportunity....and how to prepare...............for it.............
even spanish classes is a super plus.................
a knock out..these days.....................for hiring supervisors..
law enforcement---ect...prisons (corrections dept) schools--
hosp-stores.............
good luck.......
2007-01-11 19:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have found the question "Have I done something to you? Cause I feel like you are upset with me and I'd like to fix it" will go a longggggggggggggggggggggg way. She probably thinks you don't 'notice' her antics. Or she may think it's funny. She may think you don't have the balls to say anything.
But faced with that question, she only has two options, to say there's no problem, and in that case- she knows you're onto her, or she can yes and tell you why, so you can 'fix' it. But don't put words in her mouth and say "You are jealous... etc" Just let her say whatever. You may have totally unintentionally done something that is old news to you and she's holding a grudge. Maybe she thinks you took one of 'her' customers?
2007-01-12 02:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the world of buisness hit her hard kill her she works hard you work harder she goes to work 5 min early you go 10 early stay 5 late wait about 6 months ask your boss for a raise after all your hard work isnt it worth it? alls he can do is say no and alls that will happen to you is a 10 percent increase in your income and a point proven to a small lil girl in the workforce being the pretty lil blonde only goes so far. shel prob quit out of despite.
2007-01-12 02:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a understanding boss tell him about the situation, otherwise your probably hotter then her that's why she doesnt like you. Just dont stoop to her level, be the better women. Good luck.
2007-01-12 02:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by 1776USA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to ignore the pain. But, no matter how much you try to do that, she just keeps irritating you more. So, try to be nice to her. That will drive her crazy because she will have nothing negative to say towards you. And she would be forced to treat you better.
2007-01-12 02:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by mellylaine80 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll eventually mess up and her plans will backfire.
Just keep doing your best and avoid the drama stuff. If your boss is any decent business person, she'll notice who's doing what.
2007-01-12 03:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by qamper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋