i read all his emails to his ex girlfriend accidentally one day because he forgot to log off.he's been doing his secretly mostly emailllng from his office since June.the letters are sometimes friendly,sometimes teasing,the last entry was november,he's asking the girl to join him on a vacation on july 2007,the girl replied that she'll think about it.i confronted him about this but he totally denied it.is this cheating? what should i do?i know he still writes to her and i think he even calls her from his office.until now.help me,i'm hurt and so upset about this.
2007-01-11 18:28:59 · 20 answers · asked by mybiday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he told me before i accidentally discovered his emails,that we'd go on vacation on may '07,but this was after he had already invited the other girl to go on vation on july '07,he invited this girl in his email last sept '06,he ask me to go on vacation late nov. '06.yes i have copies of his emails.the current emails i don't have anymore because after i confronted him,he changed his password.i can't open his emails anymore.
2007-01-11 18:54:08 · update #1
yes this is cheating and whats worst he lied to you when you confronted him. he is only using you. did he ask you to go on this vacation.
2007-01-11 18:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here are some facts you need to know. When confronting your husband about the e-mails or possible cheating on you he will deny he has done anything wrong. He HAS done something wrong. Asking her to go on vacation with him amounts to cheating. Cheating of the mind and heart without physically cheating is still CHEATING! Your in a difficult situation. I would seek councelling. If he won't go to councelling with you then i'd leave him.
2007-01-11 22:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg...i think you should be upset and this is a form of cheating...whenever you have to sneak behind your partners back to talk to someone of the opposite sex especially an ex then your probably doping something that you know is wrong and he shouldn't be calling her or writing her especially everyday and why would he want her to join him on a vacation thats what you're for...maybe you need to print out his emails and shove them in his face and ask him if he comprehends what he wrote b/c anybody would see that he's cheating...even if he's not having sex with her he still kinda has something for her they're kinda having a little fling trust me i been there already....girl you need to get to the bottom of this and dont fall for his b/s excuses...good luck
2007-01-11 18:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by ...Jess....:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating. No matter what he's done he has put energy towards her that should have gone to you. And the vacation thing - please.
He also denied it when you have the proof right in front of you. If he won't admit it, he won't repent. I'm sorry dear, this looks like a loser to me.
I don't think there is hope where there is no truth. That is up to you, of course. But if it were me I could never trust him again.
2007-01-11 18:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by outdone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be upset. Once you got married he had no business emailing or calling her with out your knowledge. He may not have cheated yet, but it is coming if he doesn't stop this contact with ex now.
Do not put up with it. Make him make a choice now, you or her, and if he chooses you keep an eye on him.
2007-01-11 18:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actual ought to disagree with Michelle. this isn't in any respect your fault or because of something that your lacking. he's the only with themes not you. i visit work out the way you should discover it difficult to believe him yet i do not imagine what you've instructed us is sufficient to chunck a wedding ceremony overboard for. per chance you should rearrange a weekend away for the both one in all you to truly be able to communicate with none distractions and ask him why he feels the want to continuously flirt with different women. See the position that is going.. good success
2016-11-23 13:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by maffia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agreed, you need to get hard copies of their emails. With tat, you could confront him. Make sure you have spare copies 2. Sorry to say tat. Sound like he is going to cheat on you. If he really do it, you will have evidence against him for cheating. U deserve more than tat dear. Good Luck!
2007-01-11 18:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is always so ready to just say "DIVORCE" him. But it's just not that simple. is it? He is your husband and I'm sure you do love him or this wouldn't be bothering you. My advice would be to see if you could convice him to explain to you why he feels the need to keep the connection between him and her. If he has strong feelings and has to keep her friendship then you need to decide to accept or react. But either way make sure you have all the information you need to make a good choice. You are the one who has to make you happy in the end.
2007-01-12 07:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by Monique M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he ask you to go on vacation? He is cheating. You should have printed the conversation and showed it to him, of course aftering making a copy for yourself. Get her email address and email her and ask her what is going on, then print her reponse.
If you decide to file for a divorce you have proof of his cheating.
2007-01-11 18:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get copies of everything you can.So when you leave him, you can show that he is cheating. If he is married to you and still e-mailing her and calling her, then he doesn't love you like a husband should and if he hasn't yet, by the sounds of it, he will cross that line with her..Sorry
2007-01-11 18:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋