2007-01-11 18:12:07 · 11 answers · asked by Kimberley W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not a matter of what is right or wrong, but the reality of what is.
Yes, if your sons father was a decent man and a caring father, he would want him for holidays, weekends, and other occasions. He would insist on having and maintaining a relationship with his son.
However, you can't change the way this man is, or make him be different. What you CAN do is deal with the facts the way they are, and to cherish your own time with your son, and never badmouth his father to him. Allow him to form his own opinions ... kids are smart.
2007-01-11 18:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Yes and it will hurt your son in the long run. If you can try calling your ex and set times up for him with your son. If he is a good person. And won't put your son in unsafe situations. Maybe he doesn't know how to be a father. If he continues to do this then there is nothing you can do. Don't bad mouth him to your son just try to explain things the best you can. When he gets old enough to understand, you want have to tell him he will be old enough to figure it out. I hope you can get your ex to see how important it is to have both parents involved in a child's life. Some men are great father's and some think the kid's only need their mom. If you can't get him to do anything with your son then at least you talked to him and tried. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 18:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by holliemay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don j answers proves that your ex and him are LOSERS. ok a father should want his son around all the time. due to custody thats not always possible. my father didnt want anything to do with me when i was younger so now i dont want him around. of course you guys gotta take turns on holidays or figure something out. theres no excuse. only excuse is if you feel your son is unsafe around his father. and if for some reason you werent the mothr and you were just a girlfriend in the mix then think about it like this. would you like it if he wouldnt take your kids on holidays. he is a loser
2007-01-11 18:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by usmc_bmrhoades 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays are over, but yes it's wrong but wouldn't you be wrong to if you don't have your son on holidays? Both of you should share him on holidays
2007-01-11 18:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! He should want his son for the holidays. Something weird there.
2007-01-11 18:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very wrong. He may not be over you and moved on like he wants you to think, but still he should not take it out on his son who didnt even ask to be in this life anyway. Its still sad but maybe after hes really over you and moved on & grew up he will try to be there more for his son.
2007-01-11 18:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is why you go through the courts and let the judge decide who gets him and when..That made my ex husband and my self stop the fighting.
2007-01-11 18:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if the child is a memory of you it could be doing harm to him mentaly, and he refuses to have it around to keep himself from remembering times past.
2007-01-11 18:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is sad that he doesn't want to see his child, but there really isn't anything you can do to change him if he has already made up his mind.
2007-01-11 18:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by CarrieBradshaw86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, maybe he has other plans. Depending on what the reasons are, and how it's handled.
2007-01-11 18:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋