My husband is a control freak not to mention a neat freak! He is verbally abusive when the house isn't spotless we have a 9 month old and one on the way he works nights 12 hours a day so when he is home he sleeps. He has three dreadfull days off! He is never happy with all I do I stay at home I also work from home I am a loan consultant when I do go to the office the baby goes with me so I have the responsibility of taking care of the house, baby and taking calls and faxing e-mailing........ not just home doing nothing! not to mention I just got over the morning sickness had it for three months all the time! He is so insucure that he threathens my life if I do anything wrong. he says like cheat which I wont but he thinks I will and he describes how he will do it he is a cop and has a gun and says he wont use the gun but strangle me with his bare hands. his temper is crazy! heckle & jeckle! nice one minute & mean the next! He is so hard to live with! what do I do?
2007-01-11 17:53:56 · 11 answers · asked by socalgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If even half of this is true, take it seriously and get the hell out of there asap. Go to a woman's shelter and for gods sake do it soon. Do not call the cops as they will hang together. Get your as* out of there. Do not allow your children to live that way.
2007-01-11 18:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also a stay at home mom of a 3 year old and 9 month old twins. My husband is the same way thinking that nothing I do is ever enough. But when I go to work from 3-8 he cant handle it. He can't get anything done, and barely does anything the whole time. He is so stressed out after only 5 hours. He isn't insecure, but he is verbally abusive and yells all the time. I gave him until Feb to get his act straight or I am leaving. I know he loves me and the kids so I know he doesnt want me to leave and he has started helping out a lot more. I would suggest marriage counseling or family counseling. If that doesn't work then leave. Because it won't get better later if it doesn't now. My mom struggled with a very abusive husband (dad) for 18 years. He wasn't physical at first, just verbal, mental, and very insecure. He was also very controlling and it all led to later on physical abuse. I feel a lot like you do, good luck to both of us huh.
2007-01-12 02:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you totally out of your mind PLEASE don't tell me you love this psychopath .I feel sorry for you,you are in for a very hard life with this man.Cops are none for there bad tempers and abusive behaviour at home.If you want to live your life out I would leave this man.I no I'm just wasting my time telling you this.You like everyone else has to learn the hard way.I sure hope I won't be reading your name in the papers about A cop who went crazy and killed his wife.
2007-01-12 02:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this man... YOU, YOUR CHILD, AND YOUR UNBORN BABY, deserve much better than this.. I don't know if his cop title is intimidating (sp) you or what but YOU do NOT deserve this treatment. Hopefully you have family you can turn to for help, but until he realizes how very wrong he is for doing this you need to leave now. While he is at work or whenever you can sweetheart!! Maybe once your gone he Will realize what he has done.. Until then get somewhere safe for not just you but also for your children's sake... they did't ask for any of this.
2007-01-12 02:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by amylynn1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feel inferior in front of you. So he start to pinpoint things so as to make him superior. Have a good talk with him. He need to work out his own inferiority in order to make your relationship better. If things dont seem to get better, seek professional help. He needs some counselling on his emotions and insecurity. Good Luck!
2007-01-12 02:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is get the H*LL out of there! He sounds like a nut case! There's no way you should have to deal with that... no way you want your child raised in that environment either, if you're smart. Get a lawyer. Threats are punishable by law, esp DEATH threats... if there were a safe way for you to remind him of that, I'd recommend it. But given the situation, it might not be wise. Please, get out of that situation. He is dangerous.
2007-01-12 02:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh,Dear! YOu've got yourself onto a trap and it is not easy to get away.I am afraid you won't be able to change him. But try - talk to him, don't be afraid (he may like it), try to go to a psychologist together with him.
I see that you are a brave strong woman! Perhaps, you would live better without him.
2007-01-12 02:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Natalya Ch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you live any kind of abuse you should divorce
nobody can't forced another human being to live in stress
situations or worse I don't care if he is a cop and he have a gun
run away from him..
2007-01-12 02:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Arizona A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his *** to the curb.Seriously,,file for seperation & change the locks.
2007-01-12 01:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and sooner the better.
2007-01-12 02:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋