We have been married for two and a half years now, and two months ago my husband recieved a substantial amount of money
as inheritance, in the amount of $75,000.
I understand that this was 'his' inheritance from an aunt that died,
but he is now down to $4,000 after spending on everything he has wanted, and nothing on what I have suggested would be nice for the home. I asked if we could get some new carpet, but no new carpet. I asked if he would consider putting a cover over our front porch, but no new cover. He hasn't even asked me if there is anything I'd like to do with 'any' of it.
and has totally ignored any of my suggestions.
Am I being greedy or unreasonable about this, as I just don't see that I am. Please give me your honest oppinions.
2007-01-11 17:42:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OH MY GOD!!! ARE YOU FREAKIN SERIOUS?!! Sorry..but how selfish of him not to want to share that money with you, or at least buy you something, that is HORRIBLE!! Your HIS wife! How would he feel if you came across a sum of money and acted like he simpley didn't exist? And now he is down to $4,000..did he even put some of that money away? Wow, that's a lot of spending. And not put some of that money into the house? A home could always use something, even if its small..Im sorry hon, you have the right to feel hurt, angry, and furious.It all boils down to that he is just a selfish man. This is gonna take you some time to get over. What goes around comes around. :)
2007-01-11 17:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by RAW AND GRIM \,,/ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not.
If I inherited the same amount, the first thing I'd buy is something really nice for my partner. Something that would really make him happy. Or maybe a vacation for the two of us. A cruise or a tour to a place we both haven't been before.
Although its not right to expect the same thing from him, its normally what a person does if said person is in love.
Sorry...
2007-01-11 17:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's being very unfair. When you're married everything you guys have received or have is both yours 50/50. I can't imagine my husband doing that! I would be appalled. My husband would definitely want to spend some on himself, bills, vacation for our family and of course what i wanted. You're not being greedy ...he is! $75,000 is a large amount of money ! What on earth did he spend it on?? That's crazy that he spent that much money in a couple months! He's not being very responsible or fair. I just couldn't picture my husband doing this. You need to talk to him immediately. That's just not right. You guys are married ...what's yours is his...what's his is yours....Good luck!
2007-01-11 17:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not being greedy at all. $75,000 is a ton of money and it's so hard to believe that someone could be so selfish in a marriage (no offense). I would be hurt and in disbelief as well. You have every right to feel the way that you do.
2007-01-11 17:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Grace1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your husband is being more than unfair, he is acting like a spoiled child that has just gotten his allowance. I baffles me on how he could spend $71,000 on things he wants, his number one thing should be a better home for his family, not only to please you, but to raise his home and property value.
Your husband needs a good dose of reality. I do hope that he did get the bills caught up at least.
By the way if your marriage is like this after just two years, I hate to imagine what it would be like after five.
I am always available if you need a shoulder to lean on.
2007-01-11 18:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is being a tad selfish here. I'm sure if it had been the other way round he would have expected you to share with him.
What do you do about bills? If you share them then I think it is unacceptable that he hasn't offered to pay for your share on some of them, or even offered you a slice of the money to buy something for yourself.
What exactly has he been buying anyway? I'm not saying that he should ask your permission but I would expect my husband to consult me if he was thinking about spending a lot of money on something.
Maybe he is still grieving for his aunt but he shouldn't be shutting you out.
2007-01-11 17:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an extremely selfish individual. I completely understand wanting to get things I want, but not 71,000 worth.
He does not value you at all or what you think. Not once asking what you'd like or even surprising you with something? That might be one of the most selfish move I've heard of.
I'm sorry, on behalf of him, for not caring about you enough to purchase anything for the house? The house? That's not even for you, it's for both of you and because it wasn't strictly for him, he didn't even consider it.
2007-01-11 17:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by goozeblahblah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he doesn't value you or your opinions. He isn't interested in making the home you share together a better place. He's selfish and childish. Re-evaluate your relationship and talk to a counselor before you make any decisions.
2007-01-11 17:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Josi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no hes sounds VERY selfish I don't think your wrong with wanting some input on spending the money. I mean geese you two are married for RICHER for poorer remember.
2007-01-11 17:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by amylynn1976 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to test a mans charactor,,give him power.You can now see his true charactor.
2007-01-11 17:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋