i think so..as long as he's bringing home the bacon!
2007-01-11 17:32:41
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answered by LOVELY S 3
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No no no, this is a very antiquated idea. That's like saying a housekeeper is someone's property, because they pay her. The man buys the ring to signify his love, just like she buys him a ring - men wear wedding rings too. You don't sound like you're asking a question as making a statement. Even in developing countries this isn't the case anymore. Since children are a joint effort - the woman carrying it for the better part of a year - the naming is also a joint effort.
2007-01-12 01:31:29
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answered by halie_blue 3
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Wow. You sure have been screwed, haven't you??
Evidentally, rightfully so!
My man bought my ring. Sure, that's one way to think of it. Or you could think that he paid all the bills while the money I was earning was going into a savings to pay the ring off while it was on layaway.
I make my husband's dinner and bring it to him when he's tired. I do so because I WANT to. He works hard. EVERYDAY. I'm a housewife now. We don't have children yet. I cook, I clean and I shop all I want. I take care of the money because he knows I'm good at finances. I enjoy cooking. I enjoy making a meal, and hearing him say, "Ummm hmmmm..that sure was good, baby. You take such good care of me."
My husband is an underground coalminer. He works hard and values his family. He takes pride in knowing that I don't have to work outside of the home if I don't want to, but I can if I want to. He's a man among men.
The boys that call themselves men nowadays have no clue how to be providers. Women have to step up, raise the kids and earn more money than you do. Women do the housework and the finances and meet their husbands needs. Men set back and cry "What about me??"
Whaa!!! Boo flippin' hoo!!
Grow a pair and be a real man. Quit cryin' because no one has sympathy for your lazy a** when your back hurts or you punched a staple through your pretty little thumb.
Women long for a real man who can take care of her and her family. No bitching required.
2007-01-12 01:41:17
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answered by Josi 5
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Okay, that is a good way of symbolizing marriage as some form of a title. And I can see your point. But, I've been happily married for a little over two years and expecting our first child. And my husband CANNOT get away with treating me like a peice of property (I would kick is a$$). We agreed on the name for our child, not him alone. And last time I waited on him hand and foot, he was extreamly sick.
Oh, MY GOD. I forgot where my place in my marriage is!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-12 03:04:59
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answered by mellylaine80 1
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I have to say that I dsagree with your statement. You may be taking this line of thinking from the Bible. In Ephesians 5:22, The Word says,"Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord." Unfortunately, this is where most people stop. This is an example of "pick and edit prophesy"----picking out specific pieces of scripture to suit your purposes/needs. Like so many other instances, if you continue reading you get the whole story. The Word says in verse 25, " Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy....". I expound further on what a previous writer said. He said that "marriage is 50-50". Wrong, again. Want to make it work? Want to make it "real"? Marriage isn't a 50-50 proposition. It's a 100-100 proposition. Unless you're willing to give it ALL up for her, you will never know the true satisfaction of being in REAL marriage---union of a man and a woman into a single person---unified in body, mind, and spirit. I would give my live for my wife---I love her from the very depths of my being. She has blessed me in so many ways I can not even begin to say. Is it perfect? No. WE (as humans) aren't perfect. We will NEVER give up on what we have because we know that to do so we would be half of what we are.
The ring is a outward symbol----a circle, unbroken, signifying that the love you feel inside for each other is without end---not that you are somone's "property". Chores and "jobs" in a relationship are just that---things that need done. How they get done and who does them is up to the people in the relationship.
A motto I learned at Promise Keepers conference in Denver some years back kind of sums up the "Wives and Husbands" (and marriage in general) passage in Ephesians (in layman's terms). Tony Evans said, "Guys, you want your wife to treat you like a king....you've got treat her like a queen FIRST."
2007-01-12 02:26:16
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answered by shepardmichael@sbcglobal.net 2
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The entire basis for a marriage relationship is love. Without this the relationship desired is non existent.
Love is having a concern for the other persons life on every level. This should come from both parties and not be misinterpreted based on there different ways of feeling, showing, speaking their heart. Its best to open your world to spending time with varies couples that have healthy relationships on different levels and listen to how they may go about things, but ultimately decide for yourselfs what you believe is best.
It is most important for the two of you to tell each other how you feel to the degree or intenstity required in order to create a real relationship with understanding.
WARNING: this takes time and effort and results may be short in coming but the payoff is HUGE!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-12 02:22:08
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answered by 007verbalNinja 1
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Okay, maybe if you live in like the 1500's. But here in reality-land, marriage is an equal partnership with both the husband and wife working together to make a family and a home.
2007-01-12 01:31:48
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answered by kc_warpaint 5
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I don't think so!!!! This is an equal opportunity world. Say the woman was the one that proposed and got two engament rings, one for her and one for him, would that mean that the woman owned the man and he had to wait on her hand and foot and all that other stuff you said? No! It doesn't. In the real world with everyone else it takes two incomes to support one household.
2007-01-12 01:34:54
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answered by LilyDragon 3
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Slavery went out a long time ago, woman have as many rights as men,
Where are you coming from? are you Muslim, if so then your faith thinks this way and are taught to obey your husband that's fine that's what you choose to accept and believe.
But no man or woman is above the other and everything is shared.
Sorry to say this but if you are Muslim which i have no problems with, how come there are so many Muslim men on line looking for sex when its against all there taught?
2007-01-12 03:36:47
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answered by LMH 3
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Yeah, they had this law on the books about 300 years ago in America. If you fast forward a few centuries, it's changed (at least in this country).
Uh, so what was the question?
2007-01-12 01:32:14
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answered by Jenny m 2
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you should also include the parts that say you should cloth her in the finest silks and scents.You should treat her as a queen and place her upon a pedestal above all other.You should cast expensive quilts upon her bed and gold for her hand. Its pretty much all laid out for ya bub.... read it and practice it you will do well.
2007-01-12 01:35:21
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answered by Meemi 2
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