If you ignore someone who did you wrong, you were very close to, but won't admit it...do you think that person will feel it and regret it and eventually in time realize how wrong they were and apologize...even in time? My ex did this to me and I defintily voiced myself and said some hurtful things and kept telling that person how wrong it was, on my part I will admit I couldn't let it go and reminded him how messed up he was. So, in a way, I never gave him time to miss me and realize I am not there anymore. Now I am really fed up and have closed myself off from this person. I gave him plenty of oppurtunities to confront me and genuinly apologize, I did get an apology, but dont feel it was sincere. and I feel I was taken advantage of. Maybe I let him take advantage of me too much? Threatning that I dont want him in my life anymore, but still making my presence? In the end, I just wanted a genuine apology and him to hurt asmuch as he hurt me.
2007-01-11 17:27:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It really depends on the person. Hopefully, your ex, will use the time wisely to miss you and think about what he did and think of a genuine apology. However, sometimes things dont work out so fairytale like. Give it time. Healing involves patience.
And never wish upon someone your pain. Remeber that 5 letter word. K A R M A.
I wish you the best of luck and him wisdom to do the right thing.
2007-01-11 17:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i just want a guenuine apology and him to hurt as much as he hurt me"
So you want to have your cake and eat it too huh?
Well I don't know if the karma Gods will really allow this, and so I think its time to make a choice. Go for one or the other. Hurt him, or hope for an apology.
Or, go with option C.... FORGET IT. People do shitty things,. why? they are shitty people... and thus don't expect an apology, but also don't become a shitty person too, and thus make yourself tainted for the next guy taht comes along, because then as karma would have it, your vengful way of thinking will end up factoring into a future relationship being destoyed. anyways,.. good luck
2007-01-12 01:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who do You hate more, Him or Yourself? Have You accepted the fact that You and He are no longer an item? or are You really looking for a little bit of revenge because He has moved on whilst You are still going through the motions of getting over the whole thing?
2007-01-12 02:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have missed the opportunity to be honest and really let this person know how much you were hurt and let him know how he made you feel.
If it isn't too late, you may find it is healing to do this. Not to expose yourself and make yourself vulnerable, but the opposite -- to empower yourself by expressing your innermost feelings. You may never get the sincere apology you're looking for and you may not get him to hurt too but trust me you are hurting yourself by keeping this inside and expecting something to miraculously happen on its own.
2007-01-12 02:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by soulfire_7_7_7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mia, you should honestly confront this person if you want to continue to have a relationship/friendship with them. Tell them how hurt you were. Or, seriously get him out of your life. You don't sound likely to make him hurt as much as he hurt you unless you go out of your way to cause him pain, and it doesn't sound like that would work.
If he is someone who is that important to you, you need to be honest. If it's bugging you, and doesn't appear to bother him, then - it's YOUR issue, and you need to confront him with it.
Best of luck.
2007-01-12 01:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋