military blues: take 2?

Question

husband is in iraq and i'm living with my in-laws. i am attending college as of next week with 13 hours of classes towards my degree in psychology. i don't want to see a therapist for depression or insomnia issues. i pretty much don't want to leave the house at all or hang out with anyone - let alone talk to anyone but my husband. are there any other ways of coping with loneliness that don't require friends distracting the truth - that my husband is not here? yes, it sounds needy, but we have been married for a year now and have had separations due to him going to a new duty station and all. i'm nowhere near where the wives of his unit are - based in ft hood, so that option is out. i don't want distractions nor do i want a replacement. i'm quite a private person naturally and i tend to keep to myself, but i'm not sleeping well at night and i become frustrated so easily when people are around me wanting to hang out. please, don't be idiots and answer that i need a boy toy.

Answer 1

One way to alleviate some of the loneliness is to invest in some computer and audio/video equipment that will allow you to communicate directly with your husband via video blogs. You could create a blog every day, detailing your activities and expressing your joys and frustrations.

He can then reciprocate in kind.

I know that most units in Iraq have the computer equipment and Internet connections to make this type of communication relatively easy.

This type of communication can be beneficial because you can see his facial expressions and his body movements which will relay his emotional state to you much easier than written or standard email communication.

Give it a try. I think that this daily video communication will lift both of your spirits.

Answer 2

Don't know if this helps but maybe you should try to look at doing things not so that they help you cope, but so that you can tell him about the stuff. Don't know if I explained this clear enough. I'm sure he wants you to be okay just as you want him to be okay. Also you need to get out. Run errands or something, preferably during the day time. Help your in-laws. You say that you don't want to see a therapist, I feel that's a very good idea but if you don't I would at least see a medical doctor as stress can wreak havoc on your body.