How could She do that to me?

Question

I was going out with this guy who I Loved And my best friend knew that I loved him. At the time she was going out with his brother.Well 5 months into our relationship I find out from a third party that he is and has been cheating on me for 2 weeks.But the person who told me made me promise not not to break up with him. so I didn't. about a half a week later he broke up with me. I cried for 2 months strait. well just a couple of weeks ago my "best friend" Started going out with him. HOW COULD SHE. Se knows how much i loved and still love him. I am furious What do I do . I tried to talk to her but she just says "I know that If him cheated on me id cry to" and thats all she says what do I Do Do I not care a let him Go or do I Break our 4 year friendship. HELP ME SOMEONE

Answer 1

she's not a very good friend if she doesn't care about your feelings. he wasn't a good boyfriend if he was cheating on you. she's not very smart if she think he won't cheat on her.

get over him, cheater's will always cheat. and find a new best friend who cares about you as much as herself. neither of them are worth all the pain you're going through. surround yourself with positive people.

I hope you feel better soon :-)

Answer 2

So what part about him do you love the most? The part where he cheated on you, or the part when he DUMPED YOU, even after you chose to ignore his cheating.

You really must love to play the part of the victim.
Look at the friends you choose. A boyfriend who cheats, & then dumps you, & a "best friend" who takes over the one you love.

You can choose not to be a victim if you want. All you have to do is choose your friends more carefully. Next time someone does you wrong, don't wait around for them to hurt you some more so you can whine even louder.

It's time to clean house, & take out the trash honey.

Answer 3

Listen carefully.

Forget the boyfriend, and write a letter and mail it to your friend.. ( a real letter). Telling them that you are no longer their friend because of what they did. You win in the end, here's why:

One, you get to get over the situation while they get to both let it stew. Then, when they end up breaking up, they'll feel like assholes (tho they'll never admit it). They will know they were the cause of it all, and then your friend will probably feel guilty.

Also, you will have eliminated a very two-faced person from your life. Someone which you obviously don't need friendship from. They obviously don't have much concern for you, so why should you be concerned about a freindship with her.

I have a friend of 10 years who I know would sell me out in a minute for his other friends, or over a girl that we both like. I have since backed out of the friendship with him due to this, without him understanding too. However, the lesson in it, is that people change and unfortunately it's often times at your disadvantage. You get to play the positive role though, the one who takes the moral highground, who gets to flex her emotional strength, and her ability to allow herself to move on and find a REAL friend.. which I'm certain you will. Either way, good luck to you. I'm sure you'll be fine. :)

Answer 4

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. I bet that does hurt. Screw both of them. They can have eachother. NO, you should not remain friends with her. It's an unspoken rule amongst girls that you cannot date your friend's ex. Period. No exceptions. Keep yourself busy. Workout. Run on a treadmill. Go to the mall and try on clothes and buy yourself a really hot outfit. Get yourself a brand new boyfriend! One that isn't such a snake! Try not to think about it. (easier said than done, I know) As time passes, the pain and hurt will ease up. It will definitely take awhile, but I promise you it will. A year from now, you will look back and think...lesson learned..I made it through all that heartache and I'm stronger because of it! You WILL be okay.

Answer 5

No real friend would do that. No matter how much I liked someone, if my best friend was in love with him, even if they've broken up, then no way would I go near him. End the friendship. If she questions you, tell her you want friends who have more respect for you than she obviously does. The guy? Well, even if the opportunity arises to resume a relationship with him, regardless of how you feel about him, you should not get back with him. He cheated on you, broke up with you then of all things, started dating your best friend. Neither of them deserve you. Good Luck!

Answer 6

First of all she was never your best friend you don't need a friend like that at all. Have you ever heard the saying "With friends like that who needs enemies". She is one of those reasons we have those sayings. As for that guy he is nobody to cry over, what kind of a life are you looking for? Picture your self with him really the best prediction of future behavior is past behavior. So what your feeling now will happen again and again with him, Do you want to cry all over again because you gave him the benifit of the dought that he would change? He is how he is and if you were to ever be with him again you will hurt again. You also don't want to love a man that doesn't truly love you so cut your losses before you get any deeper with your time 5 months is to long to have waisted get on with you life and find a new hotter, better, more honest of a guy and if you really want revenge introduce him to "them" with the most devious smile know what you have....... Good luck to you!!!

Answer 7

ok, i had to pause from reading when i got to 'the person who told me made me promise not to break up with him so i didn't' part. everything that happened thereafter, i'm not gonna say you deserved it but you practically let him be unfaithful to you and you just stand there and deal with it. you didn't deserve to be cheated on, no one does but stop being in love with him and move on. as for your friend, kick her *** because i got the feeling that she was the one he was cheating with. and as for your ex bf... the bible says "a man that is born of a woman shall surely die." you should have killed him

the next time you know when a man is cheating on you, don't stay in the relationship leave. that makes the rest of us women look ignorant

Answer 8

# 1 she must not really be your best friend if she would do somthing like that too you

And

# 2 if he cheated on you then who needs him you are better off without him

I am not saying you should just drop them and have nothing to do with them but just give yourself time to cool down you know? There are plenty more guys out there for you

Answer 9

when it comes to love even the closes friendships can fall a part, she broke your friendship the minute she started going out with him, and she couldn,t care less of your friend ship he cheated on you and he,s going to cheat on her, sooner or later and tell your lady friend to don,t come to you when he cheats on her,so look for some one who will treat you better, and love you more.

Answer 10

What friendship? She is not a friend. Let her and the ex-boyfriend go on their way. They deserve each other. There is someone nice out there waiting for you.