When a couple get married, they should buy their own ring as marriage is 50-50. Correct?

Question

Its a good idea. Saves the guy from fighting with her to get it back when the marriage is over with. Plus, the women always complain because the ring isn't expensive and its not a diamond! Besides, the divorced woman would either pawn it or sell it. If she buys her own wedding ring, then gets divorced, she could save the next money by using the same ring. Isn't this a great idea? I think I started something! I have a long, long way to go till marriage.

A ring only means your married. You can even use one from a Cracker Jack box. A ring is a ring!

The answers women give to this question proves one thing...they value a ring more than love! What a shame!!!!!

Answer 1

A good couple will split it 50-50

Answer 2

No, although marriage has evolved and some think for the better and some think for the worse, some traditions should be upheld, just so that men can continue to think and dream that some how they are still needed, and desired for more then just there earning potential. Finding, saving for and presenting the ring, is the highest point of the marriage for most men, They will never feel so good again in there married life. Sad but true, men often can't remember the 1st kiss, or the song that was playing during the 1st dance, but they remember everything to do with the ring. All of the hopes dreams and emotions are in that ring.

Answer 3

The guy is supposed to buy the ring. The amount he spends and time he takes to make the pick reflects how he feels about the girl. I know not everyone can afford something extravagant, but the idea is to give the best you can.
I think ring ettiquet is that if your husband asks for the divorce he doesn't get ring back. If the woman wants the divorce she should give it back. But alot of other factors come into play so there no definative answer in my book.

Answer 4

Now that is just stupid because 1st of all a ring is something a person only has to give back if they want to once you are married!! The only way you would get a ring back is if you break the wedding off before you say I do because in that case you were giving that person the ring for something in exchange which did not take place unless it is your fault that the wedding is being called off and in that case if it is then you are just out of luck... I'm a woman that doesn't believe in paying for much of anything anymore just because of how ungrateful people can be sometimes so I would say the man needs to purchase the rings otherwise he wouldn't see me at the alter!!!!! I would never find myself in that situation because I normally meet people who want to make me happy other then one situation I found myself in which we won't get into right now but yeah I mean honestly the man would have to pay for my ring if he wanted any chance in hell of marrying me!!!

Answer 5

Traditionally, a man buys the woman an engagement ring in contemplation of marriage, as part of the offering to induce her to consider him as the appropiate choice. The engagement ring, when purchased by the man for the woman, is his until their marriage is completed. If either backs out, the ring is generally returned to the man. A woman keeping an engagment ring and refusing to return it, face bad karma and in general is really thought of badly, as it shows an unnatural attachment to the man, that a marriage will no longer take place with. If the woman has purchased the ring herself, for herself, she certainky is entitled to keep it, if they do not get married. Once married the ring is hers to keep, no matter who purchased it. I think these days, tradition is not what everyone wants, so whatever a couple decides, that should be enough for them, it their choice. Putting it in writing is a wise idea in any case, as the chances of getting or staying married, are somewhere around the 40 % mark. Not exactly a winning deal, but still better than winning the lottery. As to what you started and your having a long long long way to go to marriage, I'd agree with that.

Answer 6

That's not how it traditionally works. The safe way to do it is look at rings together to see what each person likes. This way there isn't any issue later of one or the other not liking it.

Also if someone is thinking about what will happen with the rings when a marriage is over, they probably shouldn't get married in the first place.

Answer 7

i disagree. i mean now a days women can do anything but buying your own engagement ring or paying for half of is absurd to me. why dont we as women also pay for half every object purchased you know,just in case! get real! a guy should have the decency to purchase the engagement ring but see, that makes it so special and great, not us women picking our own rings and picking half of the price as well. if some one were to do this to me i would rather not marry the person than have to pay for my own ring eventhough i have the money since the action itself is sort of disappointing and immature. the gentleman should surprise his sweetherat with a ring, not both of them going ring shopping! and if some one wants to do it that is cool but maybe you guys need some ettiquete lessons-ie ASAP which in other words means view the Europeans and how they deal with buying engagement ring and you will see that not everyone is so cheap and narrow minded and I am from Europe by the way!

Answer 8

yes, a marriage should be 50-50, but that has nothing to do with rings.
if the guy proposes, he usually presents her with a ring...and in ,most cases, this is the one with the diamond(s)...if she is not shallow, and really loves him, she will not care that it is not big or expensive enough. relatedly, if things do fall apart, and she is not a complete gold-digger, she will want to return the ring (unless he cheated...in that case, i vote she keeps the ring)....

should an actual wedding happen, couples usually exchange simple bands, which they buy for each other...in any situation, i would never imagine re-using a ring from your previous marriage...

but hey, if the person you marry goes for your idea...good for you...but for me, i think I'll just stick with tradition.

Answer 9

Uhm okay, except that my lover and I already put our money in the same bank account and don't worry about who owns what money. It's our money. When we get married and buy the rings we won't be able to distinguish between the money being spent because we earn the same amount of money (although I work less) and the money goes into the same joint account. What to do? Oh what to do? Oh, yea, that's right how about not split up or divorce!

Answer 10

Yap. Thought like once, but when time comes - oh, boy, the ring is somehow link to how much he loves you.

Would you want a Cracker Jack ring when you get married?
Be honest ...

Answer 11

Yeah, women should pay for half. I agree with you.

But the woman legally can't keep an engament ring if she doesn't want to marry the man - but yes, the wedding ring is up for grabs in court.