my girlfriend and i were together for 4 years.. we were separated and she had sex with another man. about 2 weeks later, we got back together and we had unprotected sex sometime around a day she was ovulating. she is now pregnant. she and i both have made a lot of mistakes, and i hope that i'm the father, but can't help but be scared that i'm not. this is a hard thing to accept, i would like to know the truth because she wants to rule the other man out just as i do. don't sugar coat this- we are taking a pat test to make sure and i would like to be prepared. neither she nor i want to worry her entire pregnancy so should we be? she is having a boy, and i already have a child. i love her very much and this would be devastating
2007-01-11 16:22:30 · 18 answers · asked by Americus F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think all you can do is what for the test...
But if you love this girlfriend of yours and plan on staying with her, it shouldn't matter who the father is, I'm sure you'll be there for her throughout the pregnancy as well as there when she has the baby. As far as I see it, whoever is there for her and the child is who the true "dad" is. Even if the other guy is the father, don't let that get in the way of you being the bigger man and stepping up to take care of the kid.
Like you said, you both have made mistakes, as all humans do. You can get over this and stay together. Prove that you are the better person here.
2007-01-11 16:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't. All that stuff about the baby looking like the dad or hair color or eye color is myth. Without a paternity test you are guessing and you have a 50-50 chance of getting it right. Is that really the best for the child?
Example: I was born brunette, with green eyes. By the time I was three? White-blond with blue eyes. All that stuff is determined by your DNA and your baby wont come out with detailed signs that will give you a 100% identification of the parents. And the look of a baby can change drastically from birth.
Better to endure the test than live with wondering and someday explaining that you may not really be the childs father....
2007-01-11 16:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only sure way is to take a paternity test. sorry to say but u can get a paternity while the babe is still in utero i believe. another way that is not SURE at all is to take the due date and figure out the date of conception. that isnt positive as sperm can last 3-5 days in a woman. there is always the possibility that it could be the other man's but less likely. if it is the other man's then you can always be the father legally by adoption. if you love your gf this much then this shouldnt be too major. just bc you are not biologically someones father doesnt mean u cant be their dad. sorry that i couldnt b of anymore help. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-11 16:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by pammie_85_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r both mistakes! so i suggest if she is pregnant now, so u can wait untill her baby born. and wait her untill she recovered from the difficult situation. and after a month that ur wife is ok, then try to consult the doctor if u want, but if u love her and accept her what she was then u will lived her together and lived forever as a parents.r u ready to face this problem? so even
without paternity test just accept it! what is true. then u give love to a child and also your wife.is it ur wife or girlfriend? now ur wife or g/f faced a difficult problem u must to support her and give her what she wants.coz its not too hard being a pregnant we need convenient her.
so i hope that u r to be a father of ur child.good luck and congratulation.
2007-01-11 17:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by adel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said you're getting a dna test but, did you know that you can now get a dna test while a woman is pregnant? Just to kill the suspense you should look into it. You have to wait unitil she is 13 weeks pregnant and it cost more money but it's well worth it I think. Good Luck and wish yaw'll the best!
2007-01-11 16:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by tobeloved64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is wait until the baby is born. Both of you are going through so much, all you can do is find comfort in each other and make the right decision together when the baby is born.
2007-01-11 16:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by ~*gen*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had sex while she was ovulating, and it was two weeks after she had had sex with the other guy than I'd say it's pretty safe to say that it's yours. That means that she had sex with this other guy immediately after her last period. Because she would ovulate 2 weeks after her last period ended. Though, it' s not impossible , it's very unlikely to conceive immediately after your period. So, if what your saying is true, it's probably yours. Though, in the case of doubt, I would still get a dna test.
2007-01-11 16:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by kimberli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well take her due date and subtract 38 weeks from it and that will give you the approximate conception date and that way you can see if you are most likely the father or the other guy is-good luck!
2007-01-11 16:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sakora 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you already said you are taking a paternity test. That is all you can do, wait for the baby and do the test.
2007-01-11 16:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way (and the only thing a court allows) is a DNA test.
2007-01-11 16:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by RiverGirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋