my grandfather died today?

Question

why am i more angry than sad?

Answer 1

well....thats how it feels wen u experience situations like that

Answer 2

My most profound sympathies to you Punk Will. Losing one's grandfather is a hard thing to experience in life; being angry about it is a huge part of the grieving process. The sadness will come later... For now, just allow yourself to be angry w/o hurting yourself or others. Express your feelings and know that you are entitled to have them. Dear, It sounds like you loved him and I hope you are surrounded by your loved ones at this time. Hang in there.... I lost my gramps in 1989 and felt the same way for awhile. Then I made a quilt to remember him.... Warm hug, Granny Brenda

Answer 3

Are you angry cause you will miss him ? That is perfectly normal. Some people find it easier to express anger than sadness. Unfortunately that is because no one looks at an angry person as soft but sometime when we see a person cry we associate that with weakness.
The truth of the matter is that only a strong person is confident enough to express their true emotions. So go ahead and curse or cry or do whatever because losing a loved one is painful. Please accept my deepest sympathy on your loss.

Answer 4

First, I want to say that I am sorry to hear about your loss. Grandparents are so special. They really spoil and look out for us. I cherish the relationship with my grandmother. I would be angry and upset if I lost her. I think grandparents and grandchildren have a close bond.

I understand that you are angry and that is normal. I believe that you are angry because of the memories and good times that you have had with him have suddenly been cut short. Remember those moments and cherish them. Write them down if you wish as well as other feelings that you may have. Sometimes for me, writing makes me feel better.

Always know that your grandfather loves you and that you will always love him. I know he knows you love him and he would want for you to be happy. He is in heaven, in a far better place than in this crazy world. He's watching over you.

Talk to some family members or friends about him. Talk about the good times shared. This loss has hit home with you and it will take time. Don't be afraid to have a good cry; it may take many crying times. Just remember that he is in a better place.

Answer 5

Perhaps this will help... here is an article about the 5 stages of grief... God bless... I am so sorry for your loss...

DENIAL

ANGER

BARGAINING

DEPRESSION

ACCEPTANCE

Things to remember are:

Any Change Of Circumstance can cause us to go through this process.

We don't have to go through the stages in sequence. We can skip a stage or go through two or three simultaneously.

We can go through them in different time phases.

The intensity and duration of the reaction depends on how significant the change-produced loss is perceived.
It was mentioned above that Grieving only begins where the 5 Stages of "Grief" leave off. Grief professionals often use the concept of "Grief Work" to help the bereaved through grief resolution. One common definition of Grief Work is summarized by the acronym TEAR:

T = To accept the reality of the loss
E = Experience the pain of the loss
A = Adjust to the new environment without the lost object
R = Reinvest in the new reality

This is Grief Work. It begins when the honeymoon period is over, the friends have stopped calling, everyone thinks you should be over it, closure has been effected, and everything is supposed to be back to normal. It's at this point that real grieving begins.

Notice that the first step of Grief Work is ACCEPTANCE, the last stage of the 5 Stages of Grief. Let's throw out the 5 stages of grief and replace it with a greater understanding of Grief Recognition and Resolution.

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Answer 6

You might feel betrayed, like he left you, and "How dare he leave me!"
Don't worry- these feelings are natural. My family has gone through 6 deaths in 12 years, and as I got older, I used to get frustrated when a family member died because sometimes it would be really bad timing, or because I had so much homework that I didn't have time for all the family stuff.
I'm sure that it is frustrating to be angry rather than sad, because it was for me, but it is normal. Really.

Also, I'm really sorry about your loss. It is never an easy thing to go through.

Answer 7

People handle grief in many different ways. You might find that you go through a lot of different emotions as time goes by. Try to remember the good times you had with him. And be thankful for the time you had together. Remember, there is not one person on this earth that makes it out alive. We are all mortal and considering he was a grandfather, it sounds like he lived a lengthy life. There are a lot of people who are here for a lot shorter time. I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

I was indifferent. Mine died in 1984, the day he passed on, I went and bought a few HM albums and tapes. I really missed him and I was angry at him and the rest of my family for shutting me out and keeping me out of the family story. I often think of him and I wish he was there to talk about sports, fishing and cars. Especially having two daughters that are now grown up I think it would of been excellent to have him around. I am glad my grand mother was around to see them. However I am doing fine in my life no matter what.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear that well it has been said that a person get angry when it ws something they did n't do or say to that person befor e they died so the feel some sort of guilt. Pray about it and what ever it was ask for forgivness and let him go in peace. finf peace with yourself. May God grant you the strength to go on and you will always carry a apecial place in your heart for him.In time your wounds will heal just give it time. God bless you

Answer 10

It is natural (I had some training in this) for someone who is grieving to be mad. Mad that a person that they love has been taken from them. It is out of the ordinary and interrupts our normal life pattern.
Remember when something was yanked from you when you were a child, most children get angry and then cry out of frustration. Allow yourself to grieve in these ways. You will move along, and your brain & spirit will digest that you have experienced a loss and is readying yourself to internalize the repercussions. My deepest condolences..I've been through it more often lately and I can relate to what you may be feeling. Godspeed! I pray you internalize it well.

Answer 11

Im so sorry for your loss. When we lose someone we love we tend to go through stages. Initially its sadness which turns to anger. This anger then possibly turns into self-blame and the cycle starts again. Its a normal cycle which we go through when we grieve. I know its a confusing and difficult time for you but time will eventually heal these wounds and u will come out this as an even stronger person. You are in my prayers. -Paula xoxo