to make a very long story short, I was raped 6 or 7 yrs ago by a guy I met online and because he changed his sn the cops couldn't find him. The today I got the net and after all this time he IMed me on a different sn out of the blue. I'm not married and have a baby, my husband knows I got raped and said if he ever found the guy he would kill him. Now comes the prolbem, my husband was there when this guy IMed me and my husband knows this guy wants to meet up with me next week. My hubby wants to go and really hurt him. I would go to the cops but because it's 7 yrs old I figure they won't do anything. btw, my bro is a cop and doesn't know I got raped because if we told him he would go over to this guys house and shoot him. what do I do? let my hubby go meet him, tell my bro or go to the cops? I'm really trying to talk my hubby our of going
2007-01-11 16:02:43 · 26 answers · asked by jojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is no statute of limitations on rape. Ever. It's never too late.
If this guy is IMing you, he's looking to meet up again and perhaps rape you again.
You need to go to the cops and let them deal with it. If you're afraid of what'll happen, go straight to the district attorney's office where you live. Explain the situation. They'll handle it. And while you're doing this, keep in mind that you may be saving someone else from getting raped....
Sorry for what happened to you.... don't let it happen again... please!
2007-01-11 16:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first and far most, talk your husband out of going there, because if he kills him, even though you were raped by this man, your husband will go to jail. It will be a premeditated murder. I would highly suggest that you contact the police as soon as possible, tell them what is going on, and let them direct you from there. Most likely they will be the ones meeting him on that day that you were suppose to meet him, convict him and he will be a forever sex offender that will be listed as one nationwide. That would hurt him more than just your husband or brother killing him or hurting him and getting in trouble for it. So go and call the police!
2007-01-11 16:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by jt_kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better go to the cops because if your husband harms a hair on his head then your husband is facing jail time and the rapist will be out free to retalliate on you!! Take the smart approah and save your family alot of greef by simplifing this problem by going to the police before someone gets hurt or worst killed all because you are not handling your business by going to the police and then letting your husband confront him!! Sounds like nothing but trouble to me and what's worst is that you put this on the internet for everyone to read. Even though your question was harmless it can come back and bite you in the butt if something happens to that rapist because you just said on line that your husband wants to kill him!! Come on little sis aren't you smart enough not to make such a silly mistake by placing this on the web in-criminating your husband and yourself as a witness if something comes from this situation now or down the line because you just admitted content to do bodily harm.. Girl email me and talk to me if you ever need someone to talk to but don't ever put something like this up on the web for everybody to read again!! Not very smart on your put!!!!
2007-01-11 16:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is what do YOU want to happen ? Are you considering meeting him ? Do you feel by doing this you will have closure ? If you are considering meeting him, talk to a lawyer first and see what avenues you can explore, that would be the first thing I would do. I wouldn't allow your brother to go over there knowing what may happen, unless that's the page you are on. If you do decide to go, NEVER go alone. Also save those IM's too. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 16:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your brother and get the law and cops involved with this. At least you will try to get justice, for the sake of other potentially victims around. You don't have anything to loose and you might get some peace of mind knowing that at least you did something to this guy. Your husband and brother are adults and responsible for their own lives, let them make their own decisions.
Good Luck and sorry about what happened to you.
2007-01-11 16:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the cops on his a.s He's a menace to society.Don't let you're BF go after him He'll end up in jail either for assault or Murder.You're Brother needs to be told by his fellow Cops so they can control him from doing anything stupid.Try to get this guy to admit the rape in his Imed. Be careful though . you don't want him to suspect anything.
2007-01-11 16:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More human drama.
A homicide won't even the score for your rape. Yeah, I know it's a terrible thing to do, but killing him won't do you or your family much good.
Stay away from him!
Any lawyer or judge worth a hoot in heck would tell you stay away from him because it would look really bad if you went around him. If he does wind up dead, you'll get the blame for sure. He might be wanting to kill you, btw, because you are a witness/victim of his lascivious behavior.
If this loser is IM'ing you then put him on ignore. For crying out loud, why didn't you do this in the first place? He's a rapist. He won't change. You think you can be this guy's pal or something?
Pray for him. Forgive him. STAY AWAY FROM HIM IN PERSON AND ON THE 'NET.
I strongly suggest that you delete this question from Yahoo Answers ASAP in the event this rapist winds up dead and his lawyer or a prosecutor finds out about this question that you posted and sends an innocent person to prison for life.
2007-01-11 16:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to the cops, that way the rapist is the only one that will spend time in prison. If your husband or brother retaliates on your behalf they will go to prison for it. This is not like it was 50 years ago when you could deal with someone like that and get off. Today jury's will hang you for violating the rapists civil rights. Since he has more rights than you did.
2007-01-11 16:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by e.sillery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the authorities do it for you. Tell them what happend, they need to capture this guy. If that guy did it to you he can do it with somebody else, you are saving the lives of his future victims. As for you husband I do understand that he has the right to get mad at him, you are his wife so basic instinct will be to protect you. You face him up in the court and let justice take its place.
I know it's not gonna be an easy ride for you, the whole experience alone is traumatising for you. I suggest go for theraphy and seek help. There will always be a psychological battle on your end so you have to be strong for your family, husband and for yourself. Even if it was years ago, the emotional torture of that is far more greater than the physical torture. Fight for what you deserve and let him rott in prison and hell.
My prayers for you.......
2007-01-11 16:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the cops and see if there was anything they can do.. maybe file a harrasement issue against him or something if he keeps instant messaging you or something.. do not let you or your husband go see him.. what if your husband beets him up and then he charges your husband with battery and then your husband might end up in jail and you would be alone with your baby... that woudl just be letting that man win
2007-01-11 16:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋