I have found this very weird, but it doesn't seem like my girlfriend likes clitoral stimulation. Maybe I'm doing something wrong, but it really makes me wonder and feel like maybe I'm not doing something right.
I have been with 2 other girls, and they would love me giving them oral sex, and always ask for it and tell me I was really good at it. Also, while having sex, they would like if I rubbed their clit, or rubbed their clit with foreplay. I have spent numerous times watching videos and reading articles and looking at diagrams to learn how to please a woman. WIth my current girlfriend, she gives no moans or anything if I'm licking or rubbing her clit, but when I put my fingers of penis inside of her she immediately starts to moan. Could it be that she just doesn't like clitoral stimulation? Or would it be that I'm doing something wrong? I havent heard tell of a girl not liking clitoral stimulation before so I found it odd.
2007-01-11 15:56:15 · 15 answers · asked by CarnalWaysToRecreateTheHeart 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Everyone is built differently.
To make matters worse, sensitivities can and will change from day to day, and even moment to moment. That's why it's important to communicate to your lover what is working, and what isn't working. And, that's why it's important to "love" your lover enough to do what works for THEM.
There are any number of reasons why the exterior massages might not give her pleasure, including mental hangups she might have about the way things are supposed to work.
2007-01-11 16:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by geek49203 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clitorial Stimulation
2016-10-01 07:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by stupka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just isn't quite experienced with that kind of stimulation. If so, it may be ultra-sensitive or maybe she just cannot relax enough to thoroughly enjoy it - - - and sometimes it takes a LONG time and if you're not gentle, the rubbing will turn into becoming uncomfortable or maybe she just doesn't have patience and wants things to move along quicker. Would she be open to the idea of you using a small hand held vibrator and some lubrication like Vaseline or K-Y?
But I guess the best thing to do would be just ask her what she likes.
2007-01-11 16:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make sure it is well lubed, dryness = pain. Also, she might have had some kind of bad experience in the past that causes her not to enjoy it. My friend was sexually abused by an uncle when she was a child, and since he performed oral sex on her, she does not have oral sex. You could try asking her why she doesn't like it (in a very nonjudgmental way). Maybe she could give you some advice or insight into what is going on. If you are close enough to be having sex, I think you are close enough to talk about it.
2007-01-11 16:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you just go for it with your mouth try more stimulation during intercourse. Position yourself higher on her so that your penis comes into contact more with her clitoris as you penetrate her. Maybe you can bring her to a climax during regular intercourse instead or orally. Some women are never relaxed enough to receive head.
2007-01-12 01:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her if she likes it?? Have you talked with her about this?
Communication is very important before sex. It looks like you're not communicating here. If you're not communicating, then you'll never know what she REALLY likes or does not like.
Just listening to her during sex does not tell you anything!
2007-01-11 17:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All women are different. I have never liked when a guy does that for me. I find I do a better job obviously. There are still numerous ways you can please a women which she can not do on her own. Just focus on those things.
2007-01-11 17:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
women are built differently. instead of goin directly for it, work around it. use a lot of lube if she's not into it. use light touches or even your breath instead of full-on pressure. spend more time touching the rest of her body as opposed to just one spot. place a finger over her butthole (sounds gross, but that's another super-sensitive area.)
2007-01-11 16:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is too sensitive for her which actually does not cause pleasure...indirect stimulation is probably a good idea...and take your time....relax...don't try so hard...and don't compare her to your other experiences..thats not fair cause all girls are different
2007-01-11 16:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Olive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE THE SAME SENSITIVITY, SHE CAN EITHER FEEL TOO MUCH OR TOO LITTLE THROUGH DIRECT CLITORIAL STIMULATION.
PERHAPS YOU CAN WORK YOUR WAY AROUND IT WITHOUT COMPLETELY ADDRESSING TO IT.
2014-12-17 02:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by asparkofinsanity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋