among these criteria such as education status,economic status,personality,age,race,religion and so on,which criteria i need to emphasize more when i search for my future life partner?please provide me your opinion..thank.
2007-01-11 15:54:22 · 6 answers · asked by bluesky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there is no list that works for everyone...
the issues that are most important to you in life, those you have the strongest feeling/strongest convictions about, are the ones that are also the most important for you to find in your future spouse.
love (and i assume that's what you are looking for) doesn't follow a formula...it's good to have an idea of what you're looking for, but just don't use it as a checklist...let love surprise you!
2007-01-11 16:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can really answer this but you, because different criteria are important to different people. To help yourself though, here's some advice:
You're going to make two lists. On the first list, you're going to put down traits you absolutely cannot live without in a mate. This list is not going to be pages long. Just pare it down to the very most important things to you.
On the second list, you're going to put down traits you absolutely cannot live WITH in a mate. Again, not nitpicky little things, but the real deal breakers.
Every time you start seeing a guy, you're going to pull out these two lists and compare him to what you wrote down. If he has every single trait on your cannot live without list and not a single one of the traits on your cannot live with list, then it's just a matter of chemistry, but he's a potential keeper.
If he is missing ANY of the traits on the cannot live without list, stop seeing him, no matter how gorgeous he is, how much money he has, etc. Conversely, if he has a single one of the negative traits, stop seeing him, again, no matter what good qualities he has.
Trust me. Every woman I know who has followed this method has found the right man... mainly because she knew what she was looking for, and she didn't settle for less than what would make her happy. These women also didn't waste time on unsuitable men. Good luck!
2007-01-11 16:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone is different and I mean it depends on what kind of person you are. If you meet someone and they treat you go and they work and are not a mamas boy by still living with mama at 30. If he is honest and doews not cheat on you, he is a good guy. Some people think education matters and sometimes it does but it all depends on you. You have to think of what you want. For me I wanted someone who was older then I and had some Culture. He is Italian and So am I~ It just all depends what you are looking for. Think of what makes you happy. Hope this helped
2007-01-12 07:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emphasize on what you want in life. Make a list in order of importance--you need to realize it won't all be fulfilled but if you get your top three then have to settle on the rest and accept someone for whom they are you will be fine. No one is a perfect match..
2007-01-11 16:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oi, are making a check list so that guys who ask you out can fill it out and if they don't get over so many checks you can ignore them? Ha, good luck with that.
I found my lover without looking.
2007-01-11 16:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty.... is the most important aspect! Without it you won't have anything!
2007-01-11 16:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋