Thanks for all the answers: License already revoked 2 years ago,Child support system can't find him(probably because i'm # 1 million in the system they need to help). Delinquent reported to credit(he owes me $40,000). He has figured out that moving from state to state keeps him one step ahead of the system. And to be honest , who can afford a lawyer? There's gotta be a way to put in his ss# or his wifes ss# & finding that info legitimately for free. They are in hiding, so there's no published phone # or address.
2007-01-11 15:41:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
well, the honor system sure doesnt work.. and that why they have all of these child support laws. the states are tired of parents who dont pay for their kids.
1) his license is already revoked; it will haunt him sooner or later, for all of the states are finally becomeing connected via computers, thus not issuing new licenses to those whom are revoked elsewhere.
2) being 1 million in the system; we all are. but its the squeek that gets the oil if you know what i mean.
3) hiding his assets; they ALL do that trick... and work under the table too. report his *** to the IRS (in writing-his name, last known address, ss number and your suspect his working under the table/hiding money). they will be able to find him and dig into his money... they can find if his expenses exceed his income.
4) most everything is probably in new wife's name (because she wants him to screw children), so thats beating a dead horse. maybe one day they will let us sue these women for that, but til then, nothing. not only that, but since his credit is trashed from the arrears being reported on them (all 3 major reporting agencies), he couldnt get a house by himself if he tried.
5) write your regional Federal Child Support Office. attn it to the director and send it via fax only. that way, it goes directly to the desk of the director. write a short letter (include you name, contact info, case number, his arrears amount, and his last known address. tell of his actions (hiding funds, everything in wifes name, moving from state to state) and ask them how to get an interstate warrent and him picked up. ask what they are doing about it.
attention and send a copy to the regional office where he resides also (so put both directors names/fax numbers on it).
6) always (ALWAYS) send letters via fax. it gets addressed, (and faster too) and its proof that it was sent/recieved. when things are faxed, they apply heat to the case, and they HAVE to respond.
it is now a federal offense to cross state line to avoid child
support.
7) write the same kind of letter to your states Attorney General. all of their fax numbers are online, so just go to your states website and find it. if not, call them and ask for it. this too will put some heat on the case.
dont forget to tell them where he is/his last address. send a fax to that states Attorney General as well.
Fax these attorney generals at least once a month (with a copy of your last letter to them) asking them the status of the case.
8) contact your local Legal Aid Office. every state has them and are in most counties. they go on a sliding scale so its free to most. look in the phone book, call your county court clerks office or your states Bar Assoc for the number. make an appointment and go.
9) contact supportkids. maybe they could have some luck. i have heard mixed reviews about them.
10) open the phone book and find a PI in his area (or last area where he was... to track him). tell him you need proof of his working and a written report. offer him 25% or more of what ever you get to do this for you. some actually will do it. send this report to everyone; IRS, attorney generals, case workers, regional federal CS offices.
that % is worth it, besides, it beats getting nothing.
11)when they throw his azzz in jail, they will keep him until wifey-poo (or his family or friends) come with a chunk of cash. its the sack lift, cheek spread and a bed for him til then.
12) post his deadbeat face on a deadbeat site online.
keep the heat on. keep writing letter and squeek'n til they get so tired of it, they hunt him down just to shut you up. :)
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
2007-01-12 03:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOMEONE has to jump in here and come to your defense! I don't know WHY you're getting so many negative comments about this question.
My ex-husband never paid any child support for our two daughters after we divorced after 11 years of marriage. I've never been able to collect any money from him either, and now that our youngest is 19, he's starting to call again, creating problems and putting our older daughter in a panic thinking he may come around and try to kidnap her children (he kidnapped our younger daughter and took her out of state during our divorce - took me months to get her back). Even though I can still go after him, I don't think we'll ever see any money and he owes well over $40,000 as well.
To educate those foul-mouthed people spewing all that hatred and ignorance: a dead-beat dad is an absent parent (divorced or not) who is LEGALLY RESPONSIBLE for paying child support but who skips out on paying. It is NOT someone who had a one-night stand with a loose woman he picked up at a bar.
Those of you who've answered and were so rude to this asker owe her an apology!!!
2007-01-12 00:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally it is better to raise your kids yourself and keep someone like that without a hold in their lives. If he is dead beat as far as payments he will only disappoint your children and break their hearts.
Personally I never asked for or got any support and he has zero contact. I have raised my three children myself with 0 financial or other help. I moved away and got a better job and yes I had to work 2 jobs for several years.
But you have to be a strong woman, so grow up a be a stronger mom.
However to the stupid guys who have posted inappropriate things on here it is hard to raise kids and costs a lot. Child care costs a major amount and so does health insurance. You may have to put your kids on one of the state run health insurance programs and get yourself state help with child care, but at least the kid won't care if the state doesn't send them a birthday card.
2007-01-12 00:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by inzaratha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you said he isn't published anywhere, but you should really check out http://www.peoplefinders.com.
I recently came across that site and was AMAZED at what all information it has on, well, EVERYONE I looked up....
And that's without paying!
Pretty much everyone - if not literally everyone - is up there because it's not based on whether or not you voluntarily became part of any mailing or phone listing. It seems to be based on accumulated government documents throughout the course of your life, so unless you use fake names, you're going to be up there...
And even then, it has a feature that shows your "associated names"...
It's pretty eerie, but it might help you out....
If you're willing to dish out a few dollars, you can get a whole lot more information on him...and whoever else....
Check it out before your write it off - you might be surprised...
Take care...and good luck...
2007-01-11 23:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Meya P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to find someone especially when they don't want to be found!!!!! I have got the same problem ,for 13 years! I just decided that my son and I do a lot better than having that pos in our lives anyway-and I don't need his money to support my son-I can do it myself,even when he was tiny and I had to work 2 jobs!!! KARMA is a hell of a way for paybacks-but believe me sweetie,he hurts everyday that he doesn't have contact with his children! Some men are just cowards and I'm sorry that you had to deal with one too!!!!Good luck and take care! And remember your kids will always respect you - not him!!!
2007-01-12 00:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by dodlydink 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check with CPS from time to time; it is their job to track people down, and if he works anywhere, the Social Security number will raise a red flag and CPS can get him. In Washington state, and many other states, they are very good at what they do.
2007-01-12 00:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's working under the table, does not drive or is dead. Or he could have somehow adopted another identity and perhaps had plastic surgery. Maybe he moved out of the country.
2007-01-11 23:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a credit card under his SS#. Accepted or denied you can last previous address.
Does his new wife have kids? Kids school records are forwarded to new schools........
2007-01-12 00:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. if you can't afford one, ask the court for a public lawyer, or go to a law firm, they often take on cases for free and just add the legal fees to what you want to charge them, and getting payment out of that. Often, they don't charge unless they win.
2007-01-11 23:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by The Big Box 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever think its not worth it?
My sister got pregnant by a deadbeat. She decided the best thing would be to just let him go on his way instead of having him in her daughters life and trying to collect money from him. And she was right.
2007-01-11 23:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋