I have been trying hard to get pregnant for 6 months, but why am I still not pregnant?

Question

I got gregnant twice 1998 and 2003, both accident with protection (only the god knows why). there we were not ready for it. So I had to have aborsions. but now we are really ready for it, and have been trying for 6 months. but still no sign of any thing.
Will be very happy to hear your advice.

Answer 1

6 months is not that long. Keep on trying.
How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips

1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.
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Good luck

Answer 2

Could be something as simple as your age, which affects your fertility. Could be that getting the abortions caused permanent problems, and it could be any number of other things in between those levels of seriousness. You should be talking to your doctor before you try to conceive, so that you can make appropriate lifestyle changes, start on vitamins that will help for a healthy pregnancy, and have help along the way if you don't get pregnant right away. They can always do fertility testing when it's been longer than normal, and you are doing everything "right".

Answer 3

You need to relax. If you become tense and you are constanly thinking about it. Your body won't concieve. Trust me on that. It took me about 8 months to get pregnant. I once thought that I was not able to have kids.Also If you had two abortion. It plays a big role in your body. They scrape your cervix, dialated ex... HOPEFULLY there is nothing wrong with you. Just relax, take vitamins and get that out of your brain that when you least expected you will. Good luck wish you both the best.

Answer 4

Just an FYI for all you people that are telling her to "just relax and it'll happen, stop trying, etc."

It really upsets women who are trying to get pregnant to hear these things. I have been told this countless times and my husband doesn't have enough sperm to get me pregnant. How will relaxing help me?

Don't tell women to just relax...it's rude and thoughtless.

For the question: It takes up to a year and a half...see your doctor if no pregnancy occurs within a year. 6 months of you're over 35.

Answer 5

Maybe you are trying to hard. Just relax and let it happen. Have you seen a doctor to make sure everything is okay. I mean after two abortions there can be some kind of damage. Hope all goes good. Good Luck.

Answer 6

My husband and I have been trying for 6 months also after me being on the pill for 6 years so......
I dont think the abortions have anything to do with it.
I heard to drink less caffeine and try not to stress over it.
Try sex every other day as soon as your period is over for like 2 weeks.
Good luck

Answer 7

Well if tring isn't working then pick days to try and the rest will be normal and wild days to just kiss and get hot and horny then add tools with a bubble bath or just oils or other items like choc strawberries

Answer 8

It's normal it could take up to a year and a half to get pregnat however you have relax and try not to stress over it, stress makes it hard for woment to get pregnat. you can also see a OBGYN to have a regular check up and start taking vitamins so that your body is ready for it.

Answer 9

I would recommend this book:

http://www.ovusoft.com/

or get the book by TONI WESCHLER. TAKING CHAGE OF YOUR FERTILITY.

I have been trying for a year now and I am reading it. A good book. I am starting to chart.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Your body may not be ready. If you are thinking about getting pregnant real bad, then maybe you are too tense....relax.

Answer 11

Don stress too much
Jus relax