I know, I'm REALLY whinning, but I need advice, and help....please??

Question

My mother is abusive towards me, but I'm too afriad to tell, I feel like killing myself or running away b/c of it, I know "Don't do it" or "It won't fix it!" but I really need help, I have literally no friends and I'm starting to become very rude to others, but I can't help it!! Every day I feel like I'm becoming more like my mother, whom once almost killed me, and constantly ignores and calls me names. I can't stand life anymore and it seems like no one even knows that I'm depressed. I know it sounds like I'm whinning, and I know.. "Boo hoo you, who cares, everyone has problems!" But it's getting worse, I can't take it. I feel like running away, to anywhere, I'm not even sure what I would do, but the thought of being out of here and away from my mom sounds so good... So...

Should I run away or just kill myself??

I never went to the hospital, she almost sufficated me, trying to give me "Medicine" even though she knows it makes me sick.

I don't have any family, there is just my mom, my brother, (Lives with us, only 16), and me.

Answer 1

I think you should send the principal of your school an anonymous note, just as you very wisely suggested to someone else recently, describing what your Mom is doing and he will be obligated to call you into his/her office to discuss it. You sound like a bright young lady.

This will take the pressure off of you from having to approach someone to discuss the pain you're experiencing inside and possibly physically from your Mom.

Do not be rude toward others and don't be afraid to make a friend. You're worthy of having friends. Your Mom needs help with managing her anger or stress. She's not your responsibility though - you are hers.

Killing yourself gives you no options and is final. I don't think you want that. Life is a beautiful experience.

Run away when you're older and have a good education and job to support yourself. You may find you'll want to visit your Mom someday, after you've left.

P.S. I do know that if your Mom didn't care about you, she wouldn't have taken to you to "doctor after doctor" to find out about the problem you're having with your knee. I hope that feels better soon too. ;-)
I wish you peace and hope you find a solution that works for you.

Answer 2

There are a few things that you can do. Depending on your age, you could contact Big Brothers/Sisters program. They are very good at helping people. I know everyone will tell you that things will get better, and it is true. But what you really need now is a very good friend to be there for you. Do you have any relatives that will listen, and not criticize, you? Remember that many others are going through the same thing as you, so there are places that you can go to get help. It is not easy, but if you look hard enough, you will find someone that can help you. Try some searches on Yahoo, or ask an adult that you trust for info. I am a teacher so I know that there are some really good teachers that really care. If you think that you know one at your school, talk to him/her.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Please do not kill yourself. I know it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel but there is...its just a really long tunnel. But there's so much more to life than what you're experiencing now. This adversity will make you stronger and it will make you appreciate the good times so much more when they come. Your mom, if nothing else, is showing you what kind of parent you DON'T want to be one day. Learn from this and use it, so that when you have them, you can give your kids a wonderful childhood, and they'll have her to thank for that.

You sound depressed, you're obviously unhappy and possibly even in danger. You need to seek help. Do it for yourself and for your future...so that you can have a future. Talk to a counselor or an adult you trust who has the resources to help you. Find a support group in your area. You don't just have to drift through life waiting to die. You put one foot in front of the other and you LIVE life. Think of the one thing you have to live for (even if it is something that hasn't materialized yet, like a dream or a goal) and focus on that one thing, everday.
I will pray for you tonight.

Answer 4

I'm posting links to several sets of articles designed to help you. The 1st is one you might like to share with your Mother ...

HELP Your Children to Thrive! :
~ Harsh Words, Crushed Spirits
~ Parents Under Pressure
~ Help Your Children to Thrive
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1997/8/8/article_01.htm *

Why Does God Let Us Suffer?
- Facing Unpleasant Realities
- Is God to Blame?
- Why God Permits Evil
- Not Alone!
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/3/22/article_01.htm

What Hope for Today's Youths? :
- The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths
- Suicide--A Scourge of young People
- When Hope and Love Vanish
- When They Return
- Motivations for Suicide
- Some Indicators of Suicide
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/9/8/article_01.htm

Hope--Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
- You Can Fight Pessimism
- Where You Can Find REAL Hope!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm

Life IS Worth Living! :
- A Worldwide Problem
- Why People Give Up on Life
- You CAN Find Help!
- How Can You Help Someone Who Seems Suicidal?
- "Will God Forgive Me for Feeling This Way?"
- Have You Lost a Loved One to Suicide?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/10/22/article_01.htm *

I suggest utilizing the scripture reference-links.

When we hide our feelings, they tend to erupt in other directions, so you need to deal with this problem.

How Can I Control My Emotions?
- A Challange for Youths
- A Key to Controling Emotions
- Slowing Down Anger
- Other Practical Steps http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2005/2/22/article_01.htm *

*These URLs will likely be change soon, whereafter the onsite Advanced Search at http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm will find the new URLs.

Answer 5

Don't kill yourself. You know why? Because you can turn your life around. Contact Social Services or Big Brothers and Big Sisters program and see if you can live with a relative. You probably wont regret it. Don't run away; [if you do & dont end up going back home] you would end up living on the streets and being a prostitute --which is one thing you dont want to be. I would have to say living with your relatives beats being a prostitute.

Answer 6

Dont even think of killing yourself. Come on... who the hell thinks that will help anything.

Running away will only help this way. Go to a friends, and call the police after one more of your moms rants. From there, your case will be handed over to DCFS... it will get better.

To be taken away fully from your mom or just family help is a 50/50 chance.

Answer 7

hunnie dont be foolish... what you should is find a family member to stay with or if its really bad go the police or child services if you really well this way do something about it look for options on the net ..but if you were to choose one of the 2 options you gave i would pick runawayAS A LAST RESORT...good luck hunnie and keep your chin up high your a beutiful girl and nothing can change that you have your whole life a head of you do give a way fight for it go do something with it..i feel your pain hun really my father was an alcholic for years called me down to the lowest and hit me too..and what i did was packed my **** and left i found a good job and now i dont talk to him anymore never will..you dont need that **** you deserve someone to love you a MOTHER who loves you..go out and find that..

Answer 8

i would try to stay wit some of my family members or i would runaway to there house but if you runaway to the streets things will only get worse, trust me ive been there, have you ever read a book called "a boy called it"? it is a really good book about a boy who was too scared of telling on his mom for almost killing him numerous times, what im trying to say is you have to tell somebody they will protect you until you are safe.
if you dont things will only get worse, suicide is not the answer either, i know people who have committed it and people who tried, if you continue to be strong you will get through this and wealther you know it or not there is somebody out there who cares...

i care about you even though i dont know you i can feel your pain and there is a lot of us who do

here are a couple of numbers of people who can talk you through this

National Child Abuse Hotline [phone].
Youth in Crisis Hotline [phone]

Answer 9

Don't kill yourself!!! Have you tried talking to a counselor? Maybe you can try and go to a church and the people there will accept you and help you though your depression. What you need to do though is talk to a school counselor and get out of that house. If your mom is being abusive she needs help to and if it means you leaving then so be it. You don't deserve to be abusive physically or mentally. I hope that things get better for you soon.

Answer 10

I know you just answered the same question earlier to a girl that her friend was in the same circumstance. Talk to your guidance counselor and get out of there before something worse happens to you. But please don't hurt yourself. Talk to someone. please call somebody now. I wish I could help you. I would call for you but you need to take the step.