Do you think bisexuality exists?

Question

Why or why not?

Answer 1

Absolutely! Bisexuality is a real, valid sexual orientation, and there are many bisexuals around to confirm that (including me!). We are, however, a very maligned group of people, with so many stereotypes, misperceptions, myths, and outright hatred against us! I just wish I could tell everyone that we are NOT:

1) Greedy.
2) Confused.
3) In a 'phase'.
4) Indecisive.
5) Horny or sex-addicted or nympomaniacal.
6) People who want to have their cake and eat it, too.
7) Necessarily polyamorous or in open relationships.
8) Commitment-phobic or unfaithful.
9) Really gay or straight and in denial.
10) Really gay or straight but getting perks/avoiding condemnation by being bisexual.
11) Necessarily into group sex.
12) Necessarily equally split in their love of each sex.
13) Necessarily experienced with both sexes in order to call ourselves 'bisexual'.
14) The spreaders of disease from the gay community to straight.
15) When it all boils down to it, any different from anyone else.

And no, not everyone is 'a little bit bisexual'. I believe strongly that there are people out there who are 100% straight or gay, and never dally along the lines in between. However, a good deal of us are somewhere in the middle, even if we don't acknowledge it with the label of 'bisexual'.

Hope that's helped you understand bisexuality; we must constantly fight biphobia and bi-invisibility.

Answer 2

Sure they exist, but some of them seem to believe that EVERYONE is just like them but don't admit it! I DISAGREE!! Not everyone is bisexual, and I have my own opinion of what a bisexual is. I am not bisexual, and I believe that a bisexual is a person who is having intimate relationships with both genders (not necessarily at the same time). I don't think it should be based solely on sexual attraction, because humans are sexual beings, and what we find arousing isn't enough to define who or what we ARE. (If you used to write or you find writing appealing but you aren't writing, would you go around telling people you're a writer?? NO). I think it's more about how you actually live and what you do, not just the feelings you aren't acting on. And yes, lots of gay people call themselves bisexual to feel accepted by others when they are uncomfortable about identifying themselves as being gay. I also believe bisexuals are not equally attracted to both sexes - they tend to prefer one more than the other for individual reasons. Bisexuals in a serious relationship CAN be somewhat selfish or greedy. They often have trouble committing long-term and they often expect their partners to accept this unfair behavior. I believe most of us want to couple up, not have love triangles that will eventually dissolve. Bisexuals don't seem to like my opinion on this, but all of the ones I have ever met end up creating conflict in a relationship because they expect their partner to deal with them having another lover. That isn't fair and it ruins a lot of relationships.

Answer 3

Because I am one and have been since I became aware of myself as a person, about the age of 4. I didn't have a name for it until I was a teen, but from puberty on I was attracted to both men and women. I've had plenty of relationships with both, marriage to a man, and at the age of 53 am with the person I always should have been, a beautiful woman.

I am not a lesbian, nor do I hate men or resent them for some past issues. My father is a sweetheart and never once harmed me. But for some reason I have horrible taste in men, and so I feel lucky to have found someone who speaks my own language. I'm glad she's a girl, I like everything about her. We can be best friends, companions, and lovers. What's not to love?

Answer 4

Wow. I was amazed at how many responses agree that bisexuality is a legit sexual orientation. Being a gay guy, I have learned to be open-minded and accept everyone for who they are.

However, the "bisexual" people I have encountered do not give me the impression that they are truly bisexual. All the guys I know that claim to be bisexual are never with women and hang out at the gay bars every weekend. I think they use this term to cover up their insecurities. The bisexual women I know are usually involved in a relationship with a man and sneak around with girls behind his back. This to me shows that these women really do not want to be with a man. They, again, use this excuse of bisexuality to cover up the fact that they are really lesbians.

I know I may have not the right people to show me that bisexuality really does exist so I stand my my belief at this time that bisexuality is just a cover up.

Answer 5

As you can see reading these answers, the people who generally agree that bisexuality exists are bisexuals themselves. We would not be lying to you. Some of us have lived for a good number of years now and accept who we are. We don't fit in with gay people although we interact with them; same goes with straight people.

A bi person goes through stages it seems:

1. Noticing that something is "different" about their attractions to people, sexually -- they notice an attraction and arousal to both females and males.
2. Denial and thinking they are going through a "stage."
3. Thinking they might be gay but realize they don't fit in sexually or culturally with gay or lesbian people.
4. Noticing that this attraction to both sexes is pretty stable over time.
5. They self-accept and self-label themselves as a bisexual person.
6. They realize that it might not be a 50:50 proposition -- most are attracted to one sex over the other.
7. They accept (6).
8. They come out to a trusted friend, oftentimes to one who is either gay/lesbian or bisexual himself or herself.

Answer 6

Yes, since the WORD bisexual is in the dictionary, it DOES exist. No question about it. It's a fact.

Answer 7

Yes because I am a bisexual. If it didnt exist then neither would I.

Answer 8

I have difficulty believing that sexual preferences and genders are concrete enough to label as gay, straight, bisexual, etc. They are a grey area...My impression is that everyone is a sexual being and ends up being more expressive in some ways than in others...So I guess, yeah, bisexuality exists, though the definition is too cut and dried for me.

Answer 9

Yes because I know alot of bisexuals.

Answer 10

Yes it does. I am bisexual - I am attracted to both men and women. I like guys with muscles and women with large breasts and I've given oral sex to both. I love being bisexual - I like being able to look at a good-looking person of either gender and be attracted to them. And a lot of straight guys like it that I'm bi.