I don't have any friends I can talk to, even though i have friends but I can't really talk to them. I feel alone. When I'm around a group of people I get shy and I can't really talk because I don't know what to say. I can't find the right words to say what I wanna say when I'm with a group of people because I feel self-conscious.
2007-01-11 14:46:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'll be your friend!
But, plus, you need to put yourself out there,m but not completely. You need to make sure that you are speaking and listening. I KNOW it is frightening, but you have to think 20 years into the future in imagine yourself with a LOT of cats.
E-mail me! I have advice.
2007-01-11 14:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by coolcat123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I can't make you suddenly turn happy. It's just not possible. That's something that only you can accomplish. It's not easy for me to talk to people either, and I get self concious on many occasions. I think everyone does though. Some just won't admit it. I used to have a group of friends in school and we all drifted apart after graduating. Now I don't have too many friends around me. It doesn't bother me though because i'm in this moment in my life right now where I need to just concentrate on getting things together for myself. I try not to concern myself with the whole "friends" thing. People will either like me for me or they won't. It's their choice. There are far too many other things for me to be worrying about besides caring about what some stranger is thinking about me. Maybe try not to think so much about what others are thinking about you....and focus on just living out your life and enjoying it while you can. Trust me you'll be so much happier and the friends that do finally surround you will be friends worth having.
2007-01-11 14:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by daisy185 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have to start liking the person inside of you. Practice looking at yourself in the mirror and saying "Hello (your name)" and smile. Assess what you have to offer others. Your loyalty, intelligence, good listener... Think about trying something you've never done before... How about volunteering at the nearest animal shelter? Sometimes if we concentrate all our energies on something besides our shortcomings, or self-consciousness, it becomes a non-issue...
You have much to offer the world, you just need to go out and start "doing" so the world and people around you can see how truly awesome you are as a person!!!
I already know it, and God does too....
2007-01-11 14:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I have been there many of us have you are not alone. when you are an adolescent you not only grow in your body you have to grow and develop in your "person" you feel this way because you have figured out who you are yet. But you will. Sometimes we have friends that are the cool one, or the crazy one, or the tough one, or the pretty one and you're just trying to figure out which one are you. You are just who you are don't try to be like anyone else if you don't have anything to say don't say nothing. And when you do have something to say, say it. Then you will start developing into just who you are.
2007-01-11 14:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to people they can't know you. Maybe it would be easier to try to talk to just one of them instead of a group. With a group of people it can be hard to get a word in.
2007-01-11 14:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Derek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when I was in high school. The way I got over it was to join groups that interested me like the science club and the history club. I got to meet people like me and it helped me get over my shyness. Social interaction is a learned skill.....you have to practice. Just find a group of people you have a bond with and get to know them better.
2007-01-11 14:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Meridianhawk42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry you don't have any friends...BUT, YOU CAN GET SOME... just smile a lot...even when you do not feel like it...THINK OF WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY...BEFORE YOU SAY IT...look the other way..if you have to think first...or look at the person's mouth while you are speaking...this REALLY DOES HELP!! People say look into their eyes..but if you are SHY look at their mouth...iF SOMEONE SAYS ANYTHING JUST SAY.."i want to hear what you are saying that is why i look at your mouth"..that's all!!!
2007-01-11 14:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problems that you have and i can relate. Whenever somone talks to me that I don't know i get defensive and do what ever i can to get away. My new motto is adapted from TLC. My motto is " making friends is awkward but so is becoming the crazy cat person". hope this helps
2007-01-11 15:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋