2007-01-11 14:42:44 · 11 answers · asked by g 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
same way i told mine I'm a transsexual, drag them to a therapist then pass out right before you tell them then wake up and tell them, then leave the therapist office in deep silence and forever be hated by your father and loved by your mother.
na I'm joking, that was my bad experience but eh therapist can help ya tell them, friends can help, or writing a letter can help. if your parents are *** holes who will want to kick you out for being diffrent just be sure you have some cool friends to stay with before you tell them.
2007-01-11 17:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Crystal C ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how old you are. You could see a therapist who specializes in transgender counseling, and if she determines that you are transgendered, you could show your parents the carry letter that the therapist usually gives to transgender people.
Another way would be to find an LGBT community center and see if they have an LGBT youth group and maybe have one of the kids come with you when you come out to your parents.
If they don't have a youth group, maybe try to go to a transgender support group and explain your situation and maybe have your parents meet one of them (hopefully a presentable one that looks really good as a woman).
I can't think of any better answer than the three ideas above. I couldn't come out to my parents by myself - I was too scared to do it too. I used a therapist to come out. And my parents had no clue I was transgender. They did not accept and still don't accept me, even after my operation.
Oh, and for those that don't know, transgender is actually an umbrella term encompassing crossdressers, transsexuals, transvestites and everything in between. Someone who has had a sex change operation is a post-op transsexual. And someone who feels that they are in the wrong body and wish to change it is a pre-op transsexual.
Good luck!
Hugs,
Crystal
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2007-01-11 23:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by cuteblondecrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many factors involved...
If you are currently seeing a psychologist, then develop a "script" and have your doctor review it.
If you're not seeing a psychologist, then find one and learn the facts:
Transgender does not necessarily mean you're gay (although, it's ok if you are).
There are varying degrees of gender identity. Do you just dress in the other gender's "normal" clothes? Do you truly feel that you're in the wrong body?
Then to top it all off, it depends on the relationship you have with your parents. If it's good and their accepting, then you have a good chance of being accepted. If you have a rocky relationship with them, it may be best not to tell them.
After all of this blurb, I think Yahoo isn't the place to get that question answered.
Your best course of action is asking a mental health professional for assistance...
Yes, I do speak from experience!
Good Luck!
Becky
2007-01-11 23:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca Ann 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all know the proper terms you are what is known as a cross dresser or transvestite. One who is transgender is someone who has gone through GRS or Gender Reassignment Surgery. Now telling your parents will be the most difficult thing you have ever done in your life, but I'm not sure how old you are but you should tell them and come out of the closet. I never did and let me tell you it's harder hiding it then coming out.
2007-01-11 23:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Nascar 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I read some of your past questions - and from what I can tell - you are not transgendered - but would LIKE to be. You haven't gone through any kind of a sex change or anything right?
So - how do you tell your parents that your really want to be a girl? That's a tough one. I don't know your parents or how liberal they are or open minded - etc. Be grateful that it is 2007 and there is a very supporting LGBT community. There was nothing like that when I was your age. Just a few gay bars here and there.
If you really want to share this information with them now (I don't know how old you are - or how much longer you'll be living under their roof) - then just tell them. Be loving - and honest - and tell them that you want their support and love.
Namaste!!
2007-01-11 22:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Wouldn't they know by now. You would think.
If not wait till they bring it up. Perhaps your next date.
You don't want any drama with them.
Good Luck
2007-01-11 22:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by chicagonative60657 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they forgot. Ask them to give you a bath. It's be a pleasant surprise :-)
2007-01-11 22:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by tonycharms05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try something like, " Mom and mom, I'm transgender."
2007-01-12 21:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont tell them
2007-01-13 00:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not already know, then they will never know.....
2007-01-11 23:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋