im 18
ive been with my bf for 3 years
but one of my friends tells me to brake up with him
that i have wasted my teenage years with him
shes been saying that all the time that im starting to think its true
i love him a lot
and he loves me
do u think shes right?
2007-01-11 14:11:24 · 15 answers · asked by MoNiCa 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
ask your boyfriend
2007-01-11 14:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by boobird 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you decide to do depends on what you want for your future and whether he is going to be a part of that. If you have planned on being with him for the long run and he feels that same, then there is nothing wrong with staying with him. If you don't see this relationship going anywhere and you feel that you want to start thinking about your future with a longterm mate, then maybe you should consider letting him go. Then again, maybe you are content at this point in your life with being with him, and if it doesn't work out, then you will be okay with that years down the road. It all depends on where you are in your life. Most important, don't let someone else convince you about what to do. You just need to do some soul searching for yourself.
2007-01-11 23:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By now, at 18, you should be making your own decisions. Even if she is correct from an outsider standpoint that you wasted your teenage years, breaking up with him won't get you those years back. What have you learned about your relationship in 3 years? If it's going nowhere or his wanting you to be with him is preventing you from pursuing something you want like college, then dump him, but make it YOUR decision and not his. Let me put it this way, if it was your parents and not a friend, how would you react to their telling you to break up with him????
2007-01-11 22:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wasted your teenage years? Does that mean you aren't having fun with him? If the relationship is taking away things you will never get back such as school dances, college......it's a waste. If you are enjoying life and he just keeps you from parties or something you might regret then what's the waste?
My son is 27 and married to the girl he started dating at 16. They have three children and feel they are married to their best friend.
You have to ask yourself, not us or your friend, if your relationship is worth keeping. That is between you and your boyfriend.
2007-01-11 22:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad but true, chances are you won't be together forever so why waste the fun years tied down to only one person? wait until your mid to late 20's to get into a serious relationship, by then you'll have more experience in the world after college and all the fun times that you will know what is important to you. How are you supposed to find out who you are if you are with the same person since you first started dating?
2007-01-11 22:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by poo hat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's generally true that couples that are High School sweethearts do not stay in that relationship on a permanent basis. People do a lot of growing and changing in these years, and most often grow apart. However, because it's safe and easy, they stay together, in essence keeping themselves from growing completely. However, if your boyfriend and yourself have found a away to grow, and stay together, all congrats to you. I suggest you think deeply about this relationship, and ask yourself whether it still works on all levels.
2007-01-11 22:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop listening to all the negativity. I think she's jealous of your good fortune. Unless she has a good reason as to why you are wasting your time, I can tell you who I'd give the flick to!!!
Hunny, make the most of what you have and listen to your heart, as corny as it sounds its you who needs to be ready to let go if things are on the down hill.
2007-01-11 22:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A real friend wouldn't say that to you unless she has good reason. Example,...If he is bad association and your friend realizes it then that would be a good reason for her to say that. But if he isn't a bad associate then she's probably either jealous of your relationship with him, or she doesn't think that you are the right one for him.
2007-01-15 18:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She's absolutely wrong. Someone who tries to keep you from having someone love you who you love is NOT your friend.
I've lost many friends over my boyfriend, but I know I was right. After all he's still here now and they turned out to be jerks.
2007-01-11 22:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is jealous and you need to listen to your heart before making any rash decisions!! Do you love your boyfriend? Does he make you happy? Is he good to you? If the answer is yes, why would you dump him, because your friend is insecure. Follow your heart and only make a decision because YOU want to!
2007-01-11 22:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she have a boyfriend?
If she was a true friend she would not be saying that......SHE IS A HATER.
If he treats you bad and ain't no good then maybe I can unserdtand why she says that, but other than that....if he good to you, she is a HATER
2007-01-11 22:16:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋