My husband and I got married about a week ago. I'm 17, he's 21 and we just had our marriage license revoked because my parents go involved and said that since they weren't there, it shouldn't be legal. Then my dad called the police and had me removed from our house and brought back to stay with my mom. To make matters worse, I'm pregnant and the police have said that since my husband is over 18 and I'm still a minor, my parents have full right to do whatever they please concerning the child until I'm 18. I won't turn 18 until June and my dad has decided that he wants me to aboard the baby... I've objected and so has he but the police have gone on to say that because he's over 18, it's technically illegal that we're even together so he ALSO has no say in whether we're keeping our own child or now. We've decided the best thing to do is leave until I'm 18 or the baby is born. Where do we go to not be found for a few months thats within the U.S.?! Please help!!
2007-01-11 14:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
look maybe you should go to marrige counsiling
2007-01-11 14:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by mikayla (: 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Running away would most likely be a very bad idea. It's best that you stay where you are for now. Your husband could get in a ton of legal trouble if you ran away together. Also, if you decide to have the baby, you need regular prenatal care for both your own health and the baby's and it would be difficult to get that while on the run.
You can look into getting legally emancipated if that is your choice, or you could just wait the five months until you turn eighteen.
Your parents can put a lot of pressure on you to do what you want, but they can't legally force you to have an abortion or to give up your baby. It's your body, so it is your choice.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 14:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Persephone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I feel really bad for you. It sounds like a very sad story that you don't have a choice but to deal with it. I'm not very sure what you would be able to do. The crappy thing is that unless you become emancipated (and be able to convince a judge that it is the best thing for you to do and that you can be responsible for yourself and your well being) I don't believe that there is a lot that you and your husband is able to do. Unfortunately, until you are 18, your parents are able to control what you are allowed and not allowed to do. When I was 17, I wanted to move out because I was not getting along with my step father but my mother said that she could not allow me to move out because she would not be considered a responsible parent if she did. I am truly sorry for your situation sweetie. Have you or your husband considered contacting an attorney to see what his or your rights are concerning your unborn child? I can't imagine the father of a child not having any rights to his child. Maybe he could take custody of the child until you turn 18? Maybe if he could prove that he is in a stable enough environment to take care of a baby, that may help. Another thing I am wondering is this: other than the age thing, why are your parents so adamantly against your relationship? Has your husband ever done anything that would put doubt in their minds that he is able to take care of you? Has he ever done anything that would tell them not to trust him or for some reason not like him? Just a few things to consider before just running off.
2007-01-11 14:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by shortydolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your situation. You sound very mature and know what your doing and its a shame your parents don't see this. I don't think that you should have to run and hide anywhere. What is your dad going to do, Drag you to the hospital and tie you to the table!! I don't think so. Just hang in there and maybe try and talk with your parents again, give them some time to adjust to the idea of there little girl getting married AND having a baby. Just think this time is probably just as hard on them as it is to you. I wish you all the best of luck and i really hope that it all works out well for you and your partner and soon to be baby.
You are in my prayers...
2007-01-11 14:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Sweetheart! I'm sorry this is so hard for you. I would tell you to try to work it out w/ mom and dad....but obviously they do not have your best interests at heart if they want to force you to abort.
I wish I had a hotline # to give you because places exist where you can stay. Look in your local phone book for pregnancy care and support- they can point you in the right direction. I'm worried about you two running and hiding like that, but if your heart tells you that's the way to go, so be it. Keep your chin up Baby, try to reconcile w/ your parents once they can't claim you.
2007-01-11 14:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I feel for you so much girl. There has to be someone who you can get in contact with who will help you. The police said it's ok to force your daughter to have an abortion! That can not be right. I wouldn't recommend running away, but if this is your last resort to save your child's life then get going. Go to either a big city or a very small town out of your state.
2007-01-11 14:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by melissamarie728 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with choices comes consequences. make sure you are doing the right thing. You are too young to start a family now. It might be hard for the future of the baby. But if your going to do it...Good Luck. I say talk to your parents and have them understand that you will take full responsibility for everything you do, if they will just let you get married. Your going to be 18 soon, so does it matter whether they do it now? cuz you'll probably end up doing it later.
2007-01-11 14:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family Independent Agency. Have yourself declared an independent. Also call a lawyer quick!
2007-01-11 14:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Detroit.
2007-01-11 14:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to another state. They won't find you for at least a couple months.
2007-01-11 14:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋