why dont teenagers and adults get along?

Question

why??????? i mean i get into arguements with my parents alot.... im 15

Answer 1

parents try to hard to be parents and want to know why going on with their teen .my daughter get mad at me all the time . I have to know things and she thinks it none of my bussiness , it's her business not my but I have to know . I just want to keep her safe . and I want her to enjoy being a teen and safe .

Answer 2

Sometimes they DO get along. Remember - your parents were 15 once. When I was 15 I was doing a LOT of stuff behind my Mom's back. My child is 12 now - and I shudder to think what she'll be doing in a few years.

The main reason teens and adults don't get along is because teens are trying to grow up and are making decisions that are NOT in their best interest (long term) - and adults are trying to protect them from that.

Also - the peer pressure as a teen is incredible. Half the things teens want to do are based on "what everybody else is doing" and what their friends say is cool. Smoking, drugs, sex, drinking, swearing, "hanging out" to excess, driving recklessly, dressing provacatively, etc - NONE of that serves anyone. At 15 - grades are very important if you want a good future. Sleep is very important if you want to be healthy and aware.

If you and your parents are arguing about stuff other than what I've discussed above - everybody should stop and think about picking their battles.

Also - at 15 your body is going through major changes (hormonal) and you're bound to be emotional. If your Mom had you after 30 or so - she is now getting menopausal - and her hormones are causing emotions too. That's what is going on in my house. Not pretty.

Answer 3

Because teens have all these raging hormonal levels that cause them to be irrational and immature. All an adult can do is role there eyes and tell them "I told you so" later. Also teens always think they are right, and really believe they are right, when they usually aren't. Most teens are loud, irresponsible, flighty and slutty. I think it pains the parents to see there sweet little kids growing up and acting so horrible.
I'm 29 and I just realized this year how awful most teens are. I apologized to my parents, even though they said I wasn't that bad. I realized that most of the stuff that was going through my head when I was a teen was due to unbalanced hormones and immaturity. It was like I had PMS all the time! I have a seven year old son and I'm really not looking forward to the teen years. I see what the highschoolers in my area act like and all I can do is shake my head and say oh gods what am I going to do. It looks alot worse now then when I was a teen, although it really isn't.

Answer 4

Teenagers and adults have an extremely different view on life. Any adult in your life has "already been there and done that." They know the consequences. They've lived the stuff. Teenagers are at a stage in life where they are just learning about being anywhere or doing anything. Being in that situation makes them want to find out what it's all about. And this helps to get yourself in the same predicaments that the adults have already been through. That's why they always believe that they know more than you. They did it first. Good luck in your teenage years. Enjoy them, but remember that you also wanna survive them. Be smart always.

Answer 5

Well, actually, it depends A LOT on the teenager and the adult.. I am 18.. During my whole teenage years, until now, I got along with adults. Many times, better than with teenagers. It depends on the maturity of the teenager and the mind of the adult. Many adults are closed to the new behaviours and life standards, and can´t accept the behaviour from the teen according to the world now. It´s all about accepting the differences of times.. it the differences can be accepted, a good relationship, with "getting alone" can be maintained..

Answer 6

honestly, because teenagers have enough of a mind and enough freedom to be out doing their own things, but not enough experience to make most decisions intelligently. We ALL thought adults were idiots when we're teenagers- but when you get a little older, you realize that your parents/ adults around you weren't stupid about what was going on- every thing you can think of doing, they've been there/done that, and they KNOW from experience what the price can be of certain behavior.

Mark Twain had a quote: "When I was 14, I thought my father was the stupidest man in the world....but by the time I turned 21, I was amazed at how much the old guy had learned in 7 years!"

get it?

Answer 7

Well with parents and teens it's a power struggle, because we think we know whats best for us and they think they know whats best for us. It's natural.

But what I don't understand is some of those store owners/ reacreational owners ..i'll give an example I'm a good looking girl, I don't look like im going to jump somebody or rob the next guy that passes. But there was a hockey game on at the arena in my town its smallish. There was about 6 adults sitting on a bench on one side of the lobby/enterance. and about 5 of us on the otherside. An attendent came and told us 5 that we had to leave, because we couldn't loiter, we tried to explain that we were waiting for somebody so we could watch the game, but he told us to wait outside. The 6 adults got to sit there and loiter. And they were being louder and more obnoxious than us!

Answer 8

You'll hate hearing about as much as I hate admitting it, but adults have been around the block a few times. Teenagers think they know what's around the block and how to handle what may come around the corner. Teenagers think adults don't know what they are going through thus resenting advise and correction, while adults resent that the teenagers won't listen to valuable advice and heed lessons that are trying to be taught in a loving, safe environment versus the cold harsh world. Sometimes we have to let you guys go and just get slapped with reality. Sorry!

Answer 9

Having some experience in this, having been both a teen and an adult, I'd have to say that it's a teenager's tendency to blindly and stubbornly hold onto their way of doing things, even when age and experience is there to tell them that there are better ways. I regularly get into arguments online with teenagers from 13-17 who think that they are BDSM Masters or slaves. I'm 34, and I try to teach them that, at their age, they haven't experienced what BDSM is enough to claim titles like that. However, I repeatedly butt heads with a 16 year old that claims to be a slave to a 20 year old Master, and that they've been in that relationship for three years (since she was 13 and him 17). However, talking to her is like talking to a brick wall.

Answer 10

just because teenagers don't realize that adults really do know a lot we just refuse to listen and insist that we're right and that because another teenager does it or says it it's right. Yeah we are totally different generations. But once you grow up you'll get along with your parents a lot more like me. I'm 18 but I'm in college on my own and i realize that some of the things my parents told me actually made sense and make life a lot easier...go figure. Don't worry you'll grow out of this phase.

Answer 11

I am not only a parent of teens.....I am a STEP-MOM!!! (or Evil Step-Monster)...I will tell you the secret of why teens and adults don't seem to get along: The grown-ups forgot the pain and the misery. The grown-ups forgot what it was like living in a bubble where the whole world is about "ME ME ME" and the Grown-Ups forgot about the DRAMA....how the smallest thing can effect YOUR WHOLE LIFE!! we have bills to pay or you get no electricity for your hair dryer....we have to get up with the alarm or we are late for work and can't pay the rent so you then you would have to live on the sidewalk....
Teens ***** and moan and are generaly "whiny crack babies"
Adults used to be the same way, they just fogot.