Should you still talk to your ex when you break up?

Question

Even when you say stuff And he says "stuff"

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

my question is, why would you need to talk to your ex? what's the point? is it just to make conversation because there's no one else around? is it because they are a good friend? honestly, it is hard for people (some) to continue speaking with their ex's due to past feelings and what was done in the relationship. if the ex was a good person and there was no serious commitment between the two of you, then i see no problem. what the problem is is when this ex, or you, still have feelings for one another and try to act out as though it's old times. it gets very very awkward and uncomfortable. soon you end up being confused as to if you are beginning to have feelings for them or if they were just old feelings that popped up. the way i do it, i rarely ever talk to any of my ex's. the reason this is is because we did not get along. those very few that i do get along with is simply because friendship is stronger.

it's best to move on from your ex's, especially if you have a current relationship. most people don't mind if their lover talks to their ex's, BUT, if they still have feelings for the person, this becomes difficult for the current relationship to continue because of this.

but again, what is the point of talking to an ex after you've broke up?

Answer 3

If there are children involved, you owe it to them to be civil to your ex. If there are no children, it is a matter of what feels comfortable for you and your ex.

I would note that a lot of new husbands or wives feel a little awkward about their new spouse talking to an ex.

I think this is different for everyone though and I can see benefits and drawbacks to it. Part of me thinks the past is past and just move on. The good stuff is ahead of you. Another part of me likes to look back.

But if "stuff" is being said, I can't see that it is all that healthy. Maybe let some time go by?

Answer 4

YES why not. If you two can be civil to each other that is great especially if there are kids involved. If you only fight and argue you would be better off to call it quits and not communicate at all. Everyone says things when they are hurt and angry, some you mean but l'm sure a lot you don't. It is just a normal reaction to want to hurt the person that you feel has hurt you. Hope this has helped answer your question. Good luck

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong in talking to an ex. Sometimes a couple get along better when they are not together. I went through that with my first husband. After we were divorced he remarried and he would come to my house and tell me all his problems. I would feel sorry for him because I knew that he was not happy being married again.

Answer 6

only if you have kids together. There no reason to talk to your ex, If you in a relationship with someone else, no because it can cause problem. now if you and your man have a understanding about your ex contact you every blue moon that cool but I don't play that mess.
If he feel that he can keep in contact with his ex you should be able too but I still say no good.

Answer 7

I don't know what "stuff" is, but if you ended on a good note, you can still talk to them. If it was a hateful break up, no need in torturing yourself by continuing to communicate.

Answer 8

Depends ... Friends what it is going to stay ? If your dating somebody that is serious and your ex is still holding on you need to let go. If friends is what is stays and those lines are not crossed sure, but keep in mind if your seeing someone be concerned about that person feels about it.

Answer 9

That is totally up to the individuals. There is no right or wrong answer. If you both are fine with talking then go for it. Just because you both weren't meant to be a couple doesn't mean you can't be friends.

Answer 10

My ex and I just started talking this week, after not talking since september. We decided that we were better friends than partners, and it's working out well.

Answer 11

if you ask me, the answer is should be still talk.
there is no reason for not talking anymore...
but in case you really have bad feeling to your ex and so do your ex,,so its all back to both of you,,..
cause every life and experience of people is different, so just do that make you feel comfort and try to thinking what is the best for your life, use both, between your feeling and your brain,..