has anyone ever dealt with or been in a relationship with a pathological liar? i believe my ex boyfriend is bi-polar and a pathological liar. im wondering what signs he would have had to show for these to be true? only serious answers, please. people with some form of personal experience or actual tangible medical knowledge.
2007-01-11 13:23:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, my ex was a pathological liar. I'm not sure he was bipolar, but I do think he may have been suffering from depression. He had anger management issues and would blow up at me (or anyone else) at the slightest, smallest thing. The lying began to affect our relationship because he would lie about EVERYTHING, and I do mean everything. He even lied about his birthday when we first started dating. If he is a pathological liar, he probably will not be as careful covering up his lies. He most likely is a pathological liar if he lies about the smallest little things all the time. Start calling him out when you catch him in a lie, he most likely will try to make you seem as if you are the one who is lying, or will try to make it seem like you are the one with the problem. A relationship with this person is unhealthy. My ex got to where he began to steal from me (and of course lie about it) and the relationship dissolved from sheer lack of trust. Your guy needs help, honey. There is nothing you can do for him until he admits he has a problem. My ex could not understand why I didn't trust him, even though I had caught him in so many lies it wasn't even funny. Good luck, but you need to get out until he decides to get psychological help. This relationship is not healthy.
2007-01-11 13:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who is 36 years old. He is bi-polar, but he does not know it. He's also a "pathological liar" too. What I've found is he doesn't think anything is wrong with it, because it's getting him what he needs no matter what it is. Most of the time he does not admit he's a liar. I feel bad for you, because the person will never get better unless they realize they are wrong. My son is very handsome, he has so many females wanting him all the time, he uses them, they give him everything he wants and needs. He lies and manipulates them. I tell him about himself, he says, " I just use them. I can lie to them to get what i want. I can't stand him sometimes. He's always moving fast, never sits down much, but when he goes to bed, he doesn't get up early. Unless it something he really wants, or needs to do. He can be extremal judgmental, and thoughtless one minute, and the next minute he'll be waiting on you hand and foot. He will act like everyone is stupid, and no one knows anything, or how to do things as good as he does.
2007-01-11 21:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been in relationships with both! The bi polar is all happy one day, then the next he was all pissy and depressed and his life sucks and all that crap. That would go on for a while, then he'd just snap out of it and be fine one day. Sometimes it took days, sometimes it took weeks. The liar, well, he liked to tell stories, and you could always kinda tell that stuff wasn't true you know. It's always over exaggerated, and then you never seem to meet any of the people they talk about, or get any real proof of the things they've "done". And when you split up you look back and go, man, he was nuts!! Good luck to you, you have my sympathies, those people take a lot from you and don't give much back. Emotionally I mean, but financially too now that I recall!!
2007-01-11 21:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by lucy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well....if he is bi-polar you can tell like if one minunite their laughing and having a good time, and the next their like all angry and depressed. And if he is a pathological liar you can tell he lies about lie everything. Ask him like what he was doing one hour ago and he'd lie when you know thats not what he was doing then or something like that idk its kinda hard to explaine.
2007-01-11 21:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a senior psych major and in order for you to be able to tell if he is a pathological lair, you must first decide what is considered a lie and to what extent is it interfering with your relationship. Lying just to be lying is horrible. Everything can be determined by the criteria in the DSM-IV.
2007-01-11 21:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, i'm in a relationship with someone who lies a lot. and i never thought i'd say that; i HATE liars.
i'm not sure i fully understand your question though: are you asking "how do i tell when he's lying"? (which i've become pretty good at; he always tells me "you always call me on sh*t that nobody else does" -- though i'm not sure that's something i should be proud of... lol)
2007-01-11 21:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by melon_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sudden mood changes one minute happy the next upset or one minute down and then really up and ready to go and u just learn to remind them of what they told u and what u saw and how it made you feel and what will be the consequences for the next time
2007-01-11 21:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by working mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/37/1711_50400.htm
2007-01-11 21:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋