not the superficial type of happy-- but the real kind of happy
2007-01-11 13:04:31 · 17 answers · asked by snowangels 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Your not a failure..and you can be happy when you find out what you like and go after it!!!!!
2007-01-11 13:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥S0uNd 0f InSaN!Ty ♥ SS 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of pointless dumb people who backstab and belittle you. Life never gives us some basic things like a good family or money to afford to do the things we love. Indeed life is a huge burden. However, in reality it is all we have and we must find refuge in what we love. Be it being a writier a sceintist, or having a family. We all have something to work for and work for it whole heartedly. And those are the things that strengthen our will and our spirit and we begin to see beuty in the world around us. Beuty is a essential for appriciating life and being happy. Be passionate about life is essential to put up with everything else. Surround yourself with intelligent others who celebrate life and who laugh for no good reason. Life needs to be celebrated - how I do this is that I usually invite a bunch over for dinner and we always end up dancing and laughing like kids! Life might be painful but it is in a weird way so increble because a path of life is never predictable or even asked for and freinds are the same way. Pick flowers in the summer, jog at 5am in the prettiest park, smile at people and dance, laugh, joke as much as you possibly can. Find excuses to celebrate! Read and find yourself not alone......... Love, love, love, love so much it hurts and never stop loving ever. Love and always be truthful even if it angers people - if you deserve more from a person tell them you deserve more.
I have seen people and I have been very depressed/numb in the past. Its not worth it, and if you feel really unhappy find a best freind coworker teacher or even a therapist that you can just talk to and be truthful to. Often unhappy people dont beleive they can get out of a sitution or dont know how to be truthful to others/themselves. Other humans are going through whatever you going through and when you can find salvation look for it in them. Though it is a pain, humans by biology are social creatures and need someone in our corner.
2007-01-11 21:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by STL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding happiness is a long process. I don't think there's anything wrong with the superficial kind of happy -- it will tide you over until you get the real happy, and then you can have two kinds of happy for the price of one!
Self-talk is also an important part of finding happiness. If I were you, I'd change my user name to something that makes me smile. It doesn't have to reflect where you are -- it should reflect where you want to be. "Ima Failure" just re-inforces unhappiness.
Also, you may want to take a look at your surroundings. Do they make you happy? Do they make you smile? Clean up the clutter, and add something bright and happy. You may want to look into Feng Shui. I don't know if it will bring you money and love, but I do know that a house run according to basic Feng Shui precepts is a bright, light, up-ward feeling house. Get rid of the stuff that brings you down. Get stuff that makes you happy.You can find things at thrift shops, or get crafty if money is an issue. Also, you can get by with *very* few basics. It's better to have an empty space, rather than a space full of things that bring you down.
For happy things involving money, you need to set goals and work for it -- Suze Orman is one of my favorite financial advisors/authors. For happy things involving love, you need to wait. Make yourself attractive and strong while you are waiting, and DON'T SETTLE for crappy love just because it's love.
You deserve to be happy. Take advantage of all kinds of happy, and don't label it as "shallow" happy or " stupid" happy. Them that has, gets, and even something silly that makes you smile will help attract the Big, Grand, Wonderful Happy.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 21:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mean that happiness that makes you feel alright even when everything is contrary to it. Even when you are concerned/uneasy about something, you KNOW that in the end it will be ok (even if the results are not good). Friend, that is only possible when you understand the mistery of life, and see that there is more than the eyes can see, there is a reality far greater than us happening. There is The One Who is by our side, fighting to protect us and show us what great wonder He had done, even letting His beloved Son die to give us life, so that through His ressurection we might live with Him, justified by His act; and there is also the one who wants to destroy everything, the deceiver, who come like a lamb but inside he's a wolf. It's easy to know who they both are, and it's easy to choose who you'll follow. It's also easy to know who will make you happy! :)
2007-01-11 21:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a process of discovery to realize true happiness. It involves every aspect of your body, mind and soul. You have to develop your inner awareness and understanding and then bring this knowledge into your interactions with others. You have to educate yourself as to the logistics. It is not haphazard. You are not just sad and everyone else is happy. It requires developing your personal skills. I'd recommend starting by reading a book called, "Heaven On Earth" by Stephen D'Amico. (It's not about religion but about learning how to live a better life for yourself.) You'll find one step leads to another. And one day, you will realize your goal! Another good book is "The Power of Intention" by Dr. Wayne Dyer. But it has to be worked at, and you will get there! Never stop trying! Good luck!
2007-01-11 21:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're mistaking happiness with joy.
Happiness is the emotion where endorphins crease up the curves of your mouth and you feel light and bubbly.
Joy is the ability to remain calm and secure in spite of all circumstances. Your house could be falling apart, your wife/husband could be cheating on you but you can still find the strength to smile because you're really okay.
How can you get that kind of security? Only by connecting to Love.
Yes, I know it sounds cheesy and religious but PLEASE hear me out.
I used to worry about loads of things. All it took was one tragedy to hit me or my loved ones and I'd think about it for days, maybe weeks and get all worked up and depressed. Also, I'm more on the round side and it's kind of hard to appreciate yourself when your girl friends drool over chiselled muscle.
But I realized that when I let it go and pass it on to Someone bigger who can actually handle the problem, I don't have to worry. Notice one can't come without the other because just ignoring a problem makes it bigger. It's like passing the math problem you don't understand over to your dad or a tuition teacher.
Also, once I knew my Creator, I learned to accept who I am on the inside. I mean, I was made one of the kind. I am special because I'm made that way. Who cares about my shape? ROUND IS A SHAPE!!! :D
Yes, you might have heard this before and thousands of people might have tried to shove it down your throat. No pressure from here, friend. Just letting you know how I found joy and rest in my life....through *drum roll* Jesus Christ.
If you wanna know more, you can e-mail me or check with a Christian friend....
Or, subsequently, you could dismiss this as another religious recruitment drive. Your choice, bud. But let me tell ya something. I don't know you. I don't know where you live. I can't POSSIBLY be out to con you. You don't have to give me money.
I can't "brainwash" you without kidnapping you and tying you to a chair and letting loose all sorts of doctrine til you have no choice but to accept.
Your choice, bud. I really hope you find what you're looking for.
God bless.
2007-01-11 21:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was just recently very sad too. i was betrayed and my life was in the garbage. i thought i would never feel good again. what i did was love me and make me first in my life. that is very important to do. you need to do any one thing you know you love no matter what. then take the time to think of yourself, think of what it is you would like to see yourself being or doing, then take the steps to make it happen. you have to fight the negative thoughts like hell! put fight please. dont let it win becasue you will never feel good and feeling bad is very easy to do. i promise you if you do this, one day very soon you will feel the light in your life again. at first, when you fight the begative, you are going to feel like it is useless, but keep saying good things aobut yourself and work on happiness even if its just laughing at a funny commercial, think of how that made you feel and expand on it.
i wish you well and you will be happy. God did not give a life to be sad and unhappy. you will make it and when you smile and feel good again i will feel it all the way over here
All the best to you
2007-01-11 21:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by prettylass2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a trite old saying but Abe Lincoln said most people are as happy as they want to be. There is some truth to it, but it doesn't work real well for severe and clinical depression, but it even helps with that. choose to be happy.
2007-01-11 21:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by AAed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat everyone as though you actually loved them and in short order you'll find yourself feeling much better about your life from the inside out.
2007-01-11 22:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you happy?
Get interested in some thing or some one besides yourself!
There are millions of things to do, millions of people to talk to,
millions of things to learn - try some of them.
Get busy!
2007-01-11 21:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by megan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋