what if a spouse did not cheat on you ? but you received so much verbal abuse and lonely one person is saved?

Question

been married for 6 years. I go to church and he don't I want to live by the word of God. and I know God will give you the diesire of your heart and am not happy

Answer 1

You cannot force someone to share your beliefs. Continue to go to church without him.

And any form of abuse should never be tolerated.

Answer 2

You know the word of God so you lead by example don't push it on your husband. He will see the light in you and how it shines and one day come around. But if you push him you will only push him away from the word. You just keep on going in the direction that God is leading you. There will always be some good days and some bad days but you have to put God first and press on. Maybe you can get your spouse to agree on counseling for the verbal abuse. Something has to be done about the verbal abuse it is not what a relationship is about. Two people should be able to sit and have a conversation without verbal abuse. You continue to pray about this situation. God will direct your path. Sometimes He leads us in a way we might not want to go but you have to trust Him. He will not fail you. He will not leave you. You can be happy. Sometimes you just have to make changes in your life. Like you said God will give you the desires of your heart. Just let the spirit guide you. Just let your heart continue to love. Don't be bitter. Don't be afraid. Just let the Lord guide your steps as you continue to go on and live your life for the Lord. Let the light in you shine so bright that your husband will see it and want to someday join you in Sunday morning services.

Answer 3

hi china i am a christian also. I,m glad to hear that you are saved. praises be to god the most high. did u get married when u weren't saved? if so things like this happens, when a spouse who is not saved and don't know the lord, he will be very abusive, cheat, curse all types of things that a believer would not do in a relationship. You're are saved now ask god seriously to save your marriage, ask him to open the eyes of your husband, and touch his soul and humble his spirit. You have to pray earnestly with all your heart. First ask for forgiveness of your sins and make sure you are not doing whats wrong in the eyes of the lord right now. Fasting w/ prayer helps alot!!! I will pray for you also. but everytime he abuses you verbally, try to talk to him and tell him how much it hurts you also, and you're not happy in the marriage. Tell him it hurts you alot and to please stop, and think about how it was when you both were getting married. Tell him you miss the days when he use to be loving. Everything will be fine have faith my sister have faith, and don't forget to fast and pray, about your marriage

Answer 4

What? 'diesire' Is that a play on words that God will bring you to suicide? Anyway, if your husband is making fun of your lack of English skills, it's not verbal abuse if it's true. What is your question? What would I do? Well, first, I would never marry someone who verbally abuses me. Second, if somehow my lover changed and started verbally abusing me, I wouldn't cry over it because I can kick him in the balls with words, but instead of that, we'd go to counselling. Thirdly, what's with this church shite? Did it happen after the verbal abuse started? Low self esteem and insecurity is one of the main reasons that people fall into the grips of cults.

Answer 5

That's a really tough one that I wish I knew the answer to. My understanding is that divorce and remarriage is considered adultery, unless it is because of fornication.

Not sure what we are supposed to do in situations like yours or the best way to deal. Personally, I would seek Christian counsel in that situation from someone who is a much better Christian than I am.

Answer 6

they say not to give up hope if u are in church and praying for him, maybe one day he will change. happiness comes from within, not from the outside.can't make him seek god, he has to want to himself.

Answer 7

You are one way and he is anothwe way. You can not make him into something he is not. If you want to live your life by God then as hard as it seems you can not be with someone who does not.

Answer 8

verbal abuse is just as bad as hitting you. its time to move on and get away from him. because in time it wont be veral abuse it will be bashings and worse good luck...

Answer 9

Pray for change honey. It's hard when you're married a non believer. Be bless!