I have had this friend for 10 years or more. We had sex once, before he was married. Now he is married with kids and we have remained friends. Their relationship is not good at all and they are basically together for the children ( who are small). I know this to be a fact because we have been friends and have some of the same friends. Recently we had sex a couple of times. We see each other about every other day and talk every day. It's not only about sex, we are like bestfriends, he is my bestfriend, I care about him alot and he definately isn't being treated well at home.
I have recently moved into a new home and want him to come and live with me. Although I know this would be complicated I am willinh to take this plunge. I know that none of this is right or honest of me and for that reason I feel that our relationship would be doomed.
And also I still keep a long distance relationship with my kids father. What do I do?
2007-01-11 12:41:05 · 8 answers · asked by trublluvsme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If that is what you really want then you are being honest. You are laying yourself on the line, prepared to take whatever comes your way and facing the truth. I know you've had sex with him which was dishonest, but what matters now is you and your future together. Just make sure his decision is his own and he really is ready to give you his all.
2007-01-11 13:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont want him leaving her for you... he has to leave her, get it together, and then be with you.
Its going to be a mess any which way you look at it... but for some reason, 10 years have gone by and he's still in your life.. now intimitely again.
He needs some space to think, make your offer, and when he is ready he will take it. If he doesnt, time to back off.
Good luck.. I dont envy you in this..
2007-01-11 21:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT GOOD
YOU HAD SEX BEFORE HE BECAME A MARRIED MAN
AND EVEN THOUGH YOUR FRIENDSHIP CONTINUE EVEN AFTER HE BECAME A MARRIED MAN, YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER ALLOW HIM TO CROSS THE LINE BY HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH YOU.
MEN WILL SAY ANYTHING JUST AS LONG AS HE COULD GET SOMETHING OUTSIDE HIS HOME. A PIECE OF YOU. AND IS NOT YOUR SOUL WHAT HE WANTS. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.
DONT YOU KNOW THAT IF HE MOVES IN WITH YOU HE WILL DO TO YOU EXACLY WHAT HE IS DOING TO HIS WIFE?
WHAT MAKES YOU BELIEVE HE WILL BE FAITHFULL TO YOU?
FRIENDS IS ONE THING BUT TO ALLOW HIM TO MOVE IN TO YOUR HOME JUST BECAUSE HE SAYS HIS NOT HAVING A GOOD LIFE AT HOME. WHAT ABOUT HIS WIFE, HAVE YOU THOUGHT OF WHAT SHE MUST BE GOING THRU? WOULD YOU WANT TO BE IN HER SHOES?? I DONT THINK SO. IS NOT A NICE PATH TO BE IN.
I SAW MY MOTHER GO THRU HELL JUST BECAUSE MY FATHER COULD NOT KEEP IT IN HIS PANTS. HE WOULD TELL LADIES THAT HE WAS UNHAPPY, THT HIS WIFE DID NOT SATISFIED HIM IN BED AND THAT HE WAS THINKING OF LEAVING HER BECAUSE HE HAD NEEDS.
AND THE WOMAN THAT TOOK HIM IN THOUGHT SHE WOULD GIVE HIM WHAT MY MOTHER DID NOT GAVE MY FATHER.
AFTER MAYBE 2 YRS OF MARRIGE, SHE FOUND OUT HE WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A CO-WORKER. SHE WENT TO HIS WORK, THANK GOD HE WAS IN A MEETING.
SHE SAW THE CO-WORKER AND DID NOT DO NOTHING. THE CO-WORKER, ASK HER WHY WAS SHE LOOKING FOR MY DAD AND SHE SAID SHE WAS A FRIEND FROM THE OLD NEIBORHOOD AND WANTED TO SAY HELLO. IT WAS TIME FOR LUNCH AND THEY DECIDED TO GO OUT AND THEY DID.
WHILE EATING, HIS NEW WIFE FOUND OUT THAT MY DAD HAD USE ALL THE SAME LINES AND LIES HE USED ON HER WHILE MARRIED TO MY MOTHER IN ORDER TO GET HIS CO-WORKER.
RIGHT THERE THEN SHE KNEW HE WAS A LIAR. SO SHE LEFT HIM. MEN (NOT ALL OF THEM) WILL DO ANYTHING TO GET YOU IN TO BED. AND USE ALL THE LIES IN THE BOOK AND MAKE YOU HAVE SYMPATHY ON HIM.
2007-01-11 21:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, let him deal with his marriage and you get on with your life. Get some counseling to see why you feel the need to be with this guy. Good luck to you!
2007-01-11 20:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by lynjen31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own questiom: "I know that none of this is right or honest of me and for that reason I feel that our relationship would be doomed."
2007-01-11 20:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you! He is married! It doesn't mater if he is unhappy or not! He is still married! I think you should get your own MAN!
2007-01-11 20:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is married ! I hope she kicks your home wrecking ***.Seriously respect yourself if you had any respect you wouldnt of touched him.
2007-01-11 20:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go
2007-01-11 20:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Amber D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋