2007-01-11 12:40:34 · 18 answers · asked by barbara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sayonara, GoodBye, This Is It! Hasta La Vista Baby! Au Revoir!........Get Out, also works! In any language, he needs to go! Call your lawyer in the morning!
2007-01-11 12:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave my husband or try to kill him if he did something like that to me. Do what is best for you though.
With you being pregnant I know you are thinking what is best for your child.
Some people believe once a cheater always a cheater.
Have you talked to him about this or is he denying the whole thing.
I hate a lier. So that would be it if he lied also!!!
I dont really believe in divorce but If you are not happy it is not good for the child either.
He should be happy to have a baby on the way and not screwing other women.
Sorry it had to happen. Some men are DOGS!!!
Always remember that the more you put up with the more he will do.
Good luck and take care
2007-01-11 22:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by princesandy2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoud divorce him!! This is if you feel that you will never be able to regain the trust back. Ask yourself a couple of questions. Do you think that he would do it again? Has he lied to you in the past and you found out about it? Is he still in contact with her? Does he get edgy when you bring it up? (which we shouldn't do because that only says that we have not forgiven them) Revenge is not the answer if that is what you are considering. It is not worth it. Think about your child. Although the child is young, we must always make sure that we are setting good examples for them. Furthermore, the child may not know exactly what is going on, but they sense everything and it makes them uneasy. For your sake and the child, really think about your next move and I wish you all the best, been there before.
2007-01-11 20:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by imhischildtwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing to my wife about 9 years ago. The reason I did it was because she would not have anything to do with me at the time, (intimacy) I know that is a lame excuse but at the time I guess that is how I justified my actions. What I and your husband did is wrong, yes but please try to understand that to some of us guys you turning us down is very hurtful. I should have told my wife how I felt and tried to work something out. If I only knew then what I know now... What it comes down to was I should have had better communication with my wife, I will never forget the hurt look on her face when she found out about my affair. That was when I realized that I had made a HUGE mistake, because as dumb as it sounds I never intended to hurt her, I figured she would never find out. I am sorry for what I did, not because I got caught, but because I had inflicted the most pain to the one person I loved the most. I realized my mistake, maybe your husband has too. I have never cheated on my wife since, talk to your husband and see if he is sincere, if he is it might be worth taking a chance on him. My wife gave me a second chance, and we have been happier now than before. I have learned to communicate with my wife and she trusts me completely again. Good luck with your decision, hope everything turns out good for you and your family.
2007-01-11 23:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie in my opinion that is the worst time a man could ever stray. You were pregnant with his child and he decides to go and sleep with someone. I know you love him because you married him and are having/had his baby. I would not be able to forgive that. Cheating is wrong no matter what but when you were pregnant. You need to get a divorce from the loser.
2007-01-11 21:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience, except that I had just had the baby and was caring for it alone while he was away for training. I understand the frustration and there is no way to categorize all situations. If you think he will do it again, maybe you should split. BUt if you think hes genuinely sorry then maybe you should stick to the vows. That's what I did. I still get jealous at times but I think marriages are meant to be worked through. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 22:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by tcb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate when men do that You see I'm a christian, and I believe that sometimes when u don't pray for a good husband u get a dog!! well since you are already married don't get a divorce, just don't sleep with him at all . It may be hard but don't do it. He went somewhere else to get sex and he has his beautiful wife at home Dog!!!! separate youself and don't give him your body until he makes a public apology to you while your parents are present. If he doesn't, move out and away from him. sorry thats my opinion!
2007-01-11 20:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by empress29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? No one can tell you what to do. You must decide if you want to forgive him for it (you will never forget what he did to you) or leave him. I am sure he promised you he will never do it again, probably happen because he was drunk, or some other lame excuse. He did admit that he is a low life.
Follow your heart, and this decision is something you will have to live with.
2007-01-11 20:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would find out the reason he did it - and make an appointment to see a councellor - relationships australia a great help or even a local councellor - maybe he has some sort of issues. i personally would kill him but depends if you want to work it out or not. always good to have a 3rd person who is unbiased
2007-01-11 21:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by mektk1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, when you were pregnant? Nice one. Really, do whatever you want. If you want to forgive him and get some counselling, go ahead and do that. If you want to divorce him and forget about the commitment you made to eachother, fine.
2007-01-11 20:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋