But you still need the thing that you keep missing out on...
2007-01-11 12:40:14 · 8 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I just keep screwing things up for myself and then it becomes to late and it's out of my reach. My indecision is killing me.
2007-01-11 12:48:29 · update #1
Two thoughts:
* If you can't solve the problem - maybe it's time to change the problem. Can't get the job you want? Maybe you should change careers. Can't get the boyfriend/girlfriend you want? Maybe you should want someone else.
* Baby steps. Sometimes we go for the big prize, and don't get it (in one big step) and that is disappointing. Winning the lottery is great, but it is hard to do. If you hit disappointment over and over, maybe you should choose more achievable goals. (First get a paycheck, then shoot for a raise.)
2007-01-11 12:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, it feels like I'm being punished for nothing. I question and question till I'm blue in the face, but it doesn't resolve anything. I keep telling myself that life will get better. I'm still waiting.
I think that all you can do is focus on now and not dwell over past disappointments. Try to find a hobby that you like... or maybe trying something new.
I hope you fell better.
2007-01-11 21:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie... Disappointments are a part of life, you have to go through them. It's like "mistakes", the more you make, the stronger and better a person you become, because you learn not to make them again. Disappointments or mistakes are not meant to put you down, they are meant to teach you, and eventually, from all the knowledge you gather, the right one comes along. Trust me, I've been there.
2007-01-11 20:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by joe d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey , I'm exasperated too!! it is very hard to carry on....I miss my man so much but he left me. We were supposed to marry then he just abandoned me. The main thing is to do something constructive like exercise/yoga. Don't indulge in food/alcohol ...don't give up is the key!
hugs from Shayla
2007-01-11 20:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allright. You need to step back and take a good look at what's messing you up. Make time to drop everything, all your stressors, all your people, and take one day to be alone. Spend some time outside, write, relax, and figure out a game plan. You need time to think.
2007-01-11 21:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, smile and try to find lemonade out of the lemons that I just aquired.
2007-01-11 20:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on going for it, knowing that eventually you'll succeed. Sheesh..try dating at 50
2007-01-11 20:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by tim s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick something. hard. it helps actually.
2007-01-11 20:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋