I broke up with my girlfriend third of januari. We were together 2 years, but often were on long distance so let's say effectively 1 year. We got into conflict about how permanent the relationship would be: I have been quite willing to live together and get to the point quickly, she wanted things to be just for fun, or first of all good for Now. At least: that is what she often said, and i did not believe her. She also did not act like that sometimes. (sometimes she did). End of story is, i started to get annoyed with feeling not safe about the stability of our relationship, talked about it very often, she did not want to commit, and i broke up. She has had weird examples from alcoholic parents and has problems talking about her feelings, and is a bit depressed. Went through worse periods.... And now, all of a sudden she sais this wrecks her so much, she wants to emigrate to my country and town (that she doesn't like), find a job here and live together. What do i do? give her a chance?
2007-01-11 12:17:24 · 6 answers · asked by Dr. Aram, from Holland with love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no way
2007-01-11 12:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure, isnt that what u wanted in the first place.. so, the timing was a llittle off.. sometimes men and women just need to see that 1 you wont put up with their crap and 2 that the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence..
good luck 2 u.
2007-01-11 12:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of a sudden should answer it for you. You already said she was afraid of long term commitments. If she so suddenly decided, she probably hasn't thought it through, I don't think she realizes what she just said she is willing to do.
2007-01-11 12:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by rk_elkins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she has some probems that she needs to work out on her own. Living together would probably cause those problems to surface even more, you might not want to deal with that right now.
2007-01-11 14:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by little lamb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She certainly doesn't sound like a good prospect for a long term relationship.
2007-01-11 12:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think you should
i honestly probably wouldnt, as it would cause too much trouble if she dosnt commit well
2007-01-11 12:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋