What's the motivation to answer questions here?

Question

I answer a lot of questions in the Marriage & Divorce section. My heart goes out to some of these folks. They are in such difficult spots at times with no easy way out. Sometimes I give an answer but other times I just try to give them something to think about. My question is, what motivates those of you who answer questions here? Do you think your input does people any good? It can take up a lot of time to answer people's questions. Why do the rest of you do it? Personally, I couldn't care less about he points. I guess I feel lucky when I look at other people's problems. Mine don't seem so bad then. Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts.

Answer 1

I also could care less about the points. What do these points get us anyway?

I answer because it is clear that some people are really suffering.
Some of these folks are desperately trying to find someone to listen to them, and answering them not only might help them, but also shows that someone out there DOES care about them.

Answer 2

I guess l answer questions on here in the hope that even a little of what l say may help someone in need of advice. I know it is hard sometimes as we only hear one side but l honestly think that sometimes if you read between the lines you get a feel about the person and what they are going through. And yes l like you feel lucky when l read some of the questions on here. It's a shame to know that there are so many unhappy people around. It's nice to think you may be helping someone though. The bottom line is I guess l just enjoy helping other people when l can. Thanks for your concern. Perhaps you will be able to help me out one day !!

Answer 3

I'm just glad I found a place where I can relieve some of my own stresses and worries and remain anonymous. Then when I get my griping out of the way I look to others who need my help in return. If its a topic that I know and may have an answer to, I try my best to give good advice. Its my way of repaying those that have helped me with mine so to speak. Obviously it does the people good when they get the answers they need because they end up thanking those that gave it. And when I'm done with being serious and need a break, I head over to another category that's less intense and have a laugh or two. For example, Polls and Surveys, there is some pretty goofy people that hang out in there and ask some off the wall questions that can put a smile on your face. I agree with you though when I see others dilemma's and mine seem mediocre. I get alot out of this program. I have learned quite a bit from it from things I would have never thought to ask. Thanks for sharing your thoughts to us as well. God bless you!

Answer 4

I answer questions in this category, because I know more about Marriage & Divorce than anything else. I hurt for the people, and with the people, because I have been hurt so much in life myself. If I can save one person, one heartache , then it will be worth the time I've spent, and the heart I've put into this for the last 8 months or so. I answer every question like it was my daughter, or my son, that was asking it. I've also met some wonderful friends on here. We all need a friend to talk to every now and then.....who better than fellow "answerers"?

Answer 5

I was married 23 yrs, and now Divorced 4 1/2. I failed at marriage, but I learned alot from the experience. Now Divorced, I am learning more about myself and my X, and understanding what went wrong . I hope by answering questions here I can help in some way, mabe save a marriage. I don't know how to get through a divorce cause I am still floundering. So i need help in that area. I appreciate these friends sharing their lives with us. We can all learn something from all of their experiences. Good and Bad

Answer 6

Yes I have had about 29 best answers and some people mail your personal e mail address to thank you for the thgought you put into the answers. Keep going. Some people are just numptys on here but there are a lot of people with bad problems and like you I think its good to try and help from our own experiences. Like you say points are nothing but possibly helping someone is.

Answer 7

I am drawn to this section of Answers because, most of the time, the questions that are asked pertain to real life problems. I've learned a lot through trial and error in my life. I feel that if I can share some of that knowledge, it might give someone an idea on how to resolve an issue that they might have not thought of.

Answer 8

My wife and I survived my affair, I learned alot from my experience and I would like to help others having the same type of problem. Let them know that "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not always true, that we men do learn from our mistakes, that usually what causes most of our problems is we men can not or will not open up about our feelings. I would like to help at LEAST ONE marriage work through this type of problem and find the happiness that my wife and I now have. In short, let marriages know that all is not lost when something like this happens.

Answer 9

Somewhat the same attitude here, and having gone through so much in my years, it feels good to be able to share in case atleast a few will avoid going in the wrong direction because of not having anyone to ask or who's gone through the same situation. Hopefully, it's not a waste of time.

Answer 10

I like to attempt to lend some insight into staying married for 30+ years. There is a lot of serious misconceptions here. Often I go for the devils advocate position just to offer the other side.