I can't stand living by our families. I want to move away and come back to visit once a year. is there anything wrong with that. time to come through guys.
2007-01-11 11:58:31 · 21 answers · asked by Jeremy V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with that.sometimes its for the best.
2007-01-13 21:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with that. The fact that you want to move away tells me that they interfere too much. You need your space to raise your family the way you see fit. Mothers will always be mothers and that can drive their adult children nuts. To much advice from family members that think their way is the right and only way can be a very bad thing. I moved away from my family for that reason. I'm so glad I did. I visit once or twice a year and talk on the phone much more frequently.
2007-01-11 12:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by cindy H 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a thing in the world. Distance gives perspective, to all parties involved and makes everyone appreciate everyone more.
Go for it. Living in a different city, depending on yourself, will enrich your life more than you can imagine and will make you someone interesting and vital to speak with and to know. It will also give all your friends and family at home something to brag about.
Take yourself out of the mix for a while. It works every time.
Before you know it, your folks and the rest of your family will be blubbering every time you call home.
And, the presents aren't bad either, once you move away, because everyone wants to prove they still think about you and love you.
Good luck. I would recommend putting at least 1000 miles between you and them.
2007-01-11 12:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there! We lived on the same st as his mother, brother, sister in law and in the next st to his grandparents. I couldn't stand it. His sister in law was a big fat bog monster and we fell out big time. She told everybody that I had a social worker for the baby! I could of murdered her. We had to move because I would of killed myself living there. We sold the house and now we live near my family and it's starting to happen again. Families like to interfere. Just move out of the way of all of them and life would be so much better.
2007-01-11 12:08:40 · answer #4 · answered by redikorus 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I live 280 miles from my father and 7 hours from my father in law. My husband see's his father every other weekend, I see mine about 3 times a year. I mostly miss my neice and nephews and wish at times I had them closer so I'd be able to talk to them face to face not just through email or on the phone. But I dont regret it. Hell you could live 3 blocks from your family and not see them just stop going over there
2007-01-11 12:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
by all means move stay in contact but the number of visits thats a tall one make it clear that you are at the end of the phone if a conversation seems a bit strained and you sence something visit dont put it down how many visits
2007-01-11 18:25:55 · answer #6 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
consider carefully before moving as you will find yourself quite isolated at first and dont forget at the moment you have a network around to help when the chips are down. if you still want to move make sure you call or email regularly as it is next best thing to seeing family and they wont feel you dont love them. good luck
2007-01-11 12:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by elaine g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF THERE ARE EXTERNAL FACTORS AFFECTING BOTH OF YOU IN THE RELATIONSHIP, IN A DETRIMENTAL WAY, THEN THEY MUST BE RESOLVED. IT WOULD PERHAPS BE NICE IF BOTH YOU AND YOUR PARTNER COULD JOIN FORCES AND EXPLAIN HOW YOU BOTH FELT TO THEM, THAT THEY WOULD LISTEN, AND AMEND THEIR BEHAVIOUR. UNFORTUNATELY WE DO NOT LIVE IN AN IDEAL WORLD AND FAMILIES ARE COMPLEX. SO IF YOUR PARTNER FEELS THE SAME AS YOU THEN TOGETHER YOU MUST DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP, REMEMBER, IT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND NO-ONE ELSE'S. I AM IN A SIMILAR SITUATION, ALTHOUGH NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP, AND I AM MOVING BECAUSE, FOR ME, IT IS THE LESSER OF 2 EVILS. BUT FOR YOU BOTH WOULD IT EASE THE PRESSURE OR CREATE MORE?
2007-01-15 05:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by freephoenixuk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family members always have a way of interfering with relationships, and if this is happening, then moving away will probably save your relationship.
2007-01-11 12:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have a good realationship with my family ..im lucky
but i know that not all families are the same
if they are causing you so much grief that you feel like you have to for your own sanity then do so
theres alway christmas's or holidays when you can visit
**** luck
do what ever makes you both happy ....
2007-01-12 03:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love it like this! My family lives in Oklahoma and his in Arizona it's great! Plus if you go to visit you don't have to pay for a room! LOL
2007-01-11 12:41:39 · answer #11 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋