I am married but fell in love with another man about 2 years ago. Our relationship ended after 6 months and we are trying to remain friends. The relationship was purely online, which sounds silly I know but we did talk on the phone a lot and got really close. My husband knows and wasn't real concerned about it to be honest, we sort of have an understanding that as long as we don't have sex with someone else then do whatever we want otherwise. Still I truly want to remain friends with this person as I truly do care about him. He did hurt me but I have gotten past that. Still I love him so much it hurts but I want to change that into a close friendship type love and I can't seem to. Any advice?
2007-01-11 11:53:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know what you mean. People can write things they would never say aloud, even to a friend. It can be a pure form of communication, but beware of wacko's on the net.
I would just get it out. Ask him what are you looking to get out
of this friendship. Hurt often makes a friendship stronger.
Good ones survive. Don't give up unless you feel he has.
2007-01-11 12:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by rjm96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it really is totally standard and actual on your case sounds good. You stated that your relationship is now depending extra on friendship and companionship (with sex) extra so than the romantic love you initially felt. That romantic love fades...and that is okay. It does not recommend you're falling our of love. ought to you be in a relationship without friendship and companionship? No way!! those are a best commencing position to have and construct on. If all you felt replaced into that initial jolt of romantic love i do not imagine your relationship ought to have lasted..there needs to be extra to it that that. As for lacking the hearth...that takes artwork. On both elements. in simple terms because the hearth is burning out does not recommend you won't be able to re-stoke the hearth!!! try being extra romantic in direction of him and that i imagine you'll quickly see the sparks starting up to fly. better of success to you and that i desire I actual have responded your question.
2016-11-23 12:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's next to impossible to turn a romantic relationship, into a "friends only" realtionship. I'm involved in the same thing right now myself, and I can NOT, for the life of me, go back to being "just friends". We both know it can never be more than that, but I'm struggling with it. She would have NO problem at all with it......I"M the one struggling. I wish you the best in your quest to do it!
2007-01-11 12:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though your husband knows, dont you think it's unfair to him to be so caught up in this guy? Maybe it's time to move on.
2007-01-11 12:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he has just moved on - do the same
2007-01-11 11:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋