Hi guys. I am really looking for serious advice right now. My wife and I have only been married for two months and cant seem to agree on anything. Our families are complete opposites, and neither of us can stand the other persons familiy. She agreed to alot of things before we got married, and now it seems like she wants to back out. I don't know what to do. She thinks its okay when she gets upset to lay her hands on me. Help!
2007-01-11 11:52:10 · 12 answers · asked by Jeremy V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ahhh well what can i say did you really know each other before you got married ! marriage is a two way street and give and take is a big thing but if she's been unreasonable stand up to her and put your side across rationally don't resort to violence though you may well be provoke cos believe me as soon as you raise a hand to her she'll have you by the nuts mate(metaphorically speaking) in the same way she cannot be expected to lash out at you with out reprisals and warn her of that but it may be something as simple as giving it time to settle in normality but don't let carry on too long as it needs to be nipped in the bud !
2007-01-11 12:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew1968 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're married so you shouldn't jump ship... yet. First look into counseling. If she's not having it. Tell her that yu feel as though the relationship is suffering and is there anything that you can do to make it work.(If you put it on her you're screwed and she'll never let it go) Then bro, if you still can't make it work there's two buildings you can go to, one is the church, pray really hard, for a miracle, or a strung bolt of lightning, or two, the courthouse cuz it's divorce time. Tough it out if you love her, but don't allow anyone one to feel as though they can hit you. That's them showing that they feel that you are less then them.
Good luck.
2007-01-11 12:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start you need to put the family stuff to one side - you married each other not your families. Perhaps agree for teh sake of your relationship to have no contact with each other's families for the time being. Then you need to look at the other issues whatever they are and try to sort them out. Insist on getting some counselling. If your wife refuses, then move out and don't move back in until she agrees.
2007-01-11 12:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by superscorer2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If by lay her hands on you you mean she hits you when she gets upset then you better get some counseling for both of you. Hitting is never the answer and can escalate. Talking to a marriage counselor may help. Good luck. Hitting a spouse or who ever is battery and domestic violence is domestic violence no matter who is doing the hitting.
2007-01-11 12:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by insd92104 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Identify and name the problem...that's the first step. What is causing you to have such difficulties? Once you know that, then most of your issues are already solved. Focus on rectifying that. If you two loved each other enough to get married then you can rekindle that flame and find the reason to work things out.
2007-01-11 12:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeremy forget the family thing your family is you and your wife,It's nothing to do with the others persons family don't make issues for yourself.No matter what they say no matter what they do on both sides the only thing that matter is you and your wife,close the doors slowly.Go off on holiday and turn the mobiles. GOOD LUCH.
2007-01-11 14:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Richard S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,we have been married 34 years & still disagree on practically everything.I do not like the hands on me if she is violent then get out.
2007-01-15 04:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She agreed a lot of things before she got married - obviously she agreed to these things because she wanted to marry you
Your question to yourself should be "everything is back to normal now . why did she agree to these things before I would marry her"
What benefit is she getting out of marrying you?
2007-01-11 12:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's clear you made a mistake marrying her... have a break to clear things out and get out of there if need be.
she's gross to lay hands on you, whether you're a man doesn't mean she acn do that..
2007-01-14 19:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by toupou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you never think this before this marriage? it is a very serious thing for people, no playing. i guess you need change your attitude as well if you still love her and change yourself for her. make effort to save it, or you just lack of hurting and pain.
2007-01-11 12:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋