How do i STOP comparing myself to other people???

Question

its like a really BAD habit i have NOOOO control over....i need to stop....
......any suggestions???

Answer 1

Look, everyone compares themselves to other people. Each of us is a human being, and that makes other human beings around us pretty interesting.

One thing you should put a stop to is the idea you have "no control" over it. Sure - the idea will pop into your head, but then you control what happens next. Do you obsess about it? Or do you move on to something more productive?

I think the best thing you can do is this: When you catch yourself thinking about *results* and *things you don't control*, switch to thinking about your own *actions* and *behaviors*.

Let's use sports as an example. Suppose I'm the worst player on an NBA team. I could spend a lot of time thinking about "all these guys are taller than me" (something I can't control) or "all these guys make more money than me" (results). What if I start thinking about my own behavior? How much do I practice compared to the rest of the team? Maybe I need to practice more. How much time do I spend lifting weights and and running? I could be better if I worked harder.

Most important, these are things I can control.

Another example: High School. I look around and everyone is better looking (something I don't control - well I can influence but not control), and richer than me (a result). I catch myself doing it so I ask myself, "What can I do to help someone around me?" (an action) "Can I get a job to make more money?" (an action/behavior). So, I switch to things I can do and I can control.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Lord we all have the same problems. It'll discourage you though, guaranteed. One idea, if you plan to be a scientist, for instance, then your working on that instead, you can plan your day an judge it against your goal and only look sideways to see who can help you. Then you tend to compare yourself to scientists and you want them to be better than you or friend who knows about people so you don't have to figure out the whole world by yourself. Would you want everyone to drag on you? Enjoy there success, it's might br partly jealousy. Learn from them and find someone you can help. I mean, I guess. Say, I don't know how I got in Renas post, I'm better that her.
Another thing I did was, when I stopped thinking I was worse, then I flipped and started thinking I was better. Actually everyone has some good stuff if we can see it. Now I see, like here how loving and smart or beautiful people are and I love it.

Answer 3

Poet..,
I take it that either one of two things is likely when you judge yourself using other people as your model.
You are somehow better than they.
You are somehow worse than they.
I think that you are not getting the assurance or support that you want or need from those around you.
So, begin to ask for what you need. You will get answers.
Though we are inherently alike, there is an unmistakeable uniqueness. Embrace that which defines you and be confident that you are the best YOU or are on the road to becoming the best YOU that any one can be.

Answer 4

You shouldn't try to stop comparing yourself to other people. If you compare yourself to someone that is very successful and/or famous, then you know that you have a goal to reach... and you know how you are doing in reaching that goal. However, if you compare yourself to an unsuccessful person, a.k.a. saying you're better than them, you should stop doing that and just compare yourself to the successful people, because it's better to know of a goal you want to reach than to dwell on a point that you have surpassed... if that makes any sense. I'm not very good with words.

Answer 5

Are you feeling down on yourself and need to check yourself against everyone else? That does make you nuts, I know. Maybe you are young and you're just trying to find out where you are in the pecking order or the hierarchy of your group of friends and family. If you want to stop----------oh wait!!----got one. I have always wanted to recommend this so Thanks!! Wear a rubber band (?) around your wrist (?) and pop it real hard so that it hurts (?) and you will miraculously stop doing that comparing thing you have going there. Yep!! Works too. They say. But who are THEY compared to ME??? I'm not laughing at you darlin', but with you. Stay light on your feet and fast in case you get chased! You sound very interesting to me! Good Luck! @8=)

Answer 6

Just realize that you are who you are and you were made that way. if youre happy with who you are, you wont need to compare yourself to them any more. if you are on the other end and are the one whos like... "i look so much better than her" than just realize that they chose to look like that and that is how they want to be looked at. and remember if you think badly of other people, how would you feel if they were doing te same thing to you!

Answer 7

find out what's unique in u and not in others
get some self-confidence
u have to believe that u have blessings not found and others

and individuals r not the same

u have weakness points different than others, and u have strengh ones that u'll not find it in others

Answer 8

filthy humans need not be observed.

I talk to my self a lot and can't stop that, life goes on, you get over it, nothing really matters and much as you make it out to.

Answer 9

Just accept yourself for the person you are. It does not matter at all what other people are or what they look like. They will not be bothered about you, so why should you bother about them.

Answer 10

look at yourself in the mirror and check out if you need a make over coz its ridiculous being so insecure all the time.... boost your self esteem dear... it feel great at tmost