my husband is very good looking,(I'm not just biased here) and he has recently started working on a club door. I trust him totally, but he's a big lad,(very muscley) and I have seen a few girls eyeing him up. I'm not really the jealous type, but I am a bit worried about all these drunk scantily clad girls he is seeing three nights a week. any advice?
2007-01-11 11:35:32 · 22 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Erm thanks Sax, goodbye selfesteem!
2007-01-11 11:42:47 · update #1
I have been a doorman for 11 years so trust me I really can relate to this subject. Its always flattering to have girls flirt with you, or chat you up, but when it happens every weekend tou realise biggest part of the attraction is the fact you have authority because you're the BOUNCER, as most girls call you.What a lot of people do'nt realise is that BOUNCER is totally sober, and has had p**t up t**ts like them chatting them up or flirting with them all night, so instead of flattering its now bacome boring, and a turn off. The best feeling I gat all night is at stop tap, when the only woman I'm thinking of is the 1 I'm going home to, the 1 who's tucked up in my bed after putting our 2 beautiful daughters to bed. Hope this helps, all door supervisors get tarred with the same brush when nowadays a lot of us pay nearly £500 to be registered and do a professional job. People would have enough to say if all door supervisors went around saying all women who go in pubs and clubs are sl*gs just because a lot of them have come on to us, don't you think?
2007-01-11 19:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Carl H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust! that's all i can say really... honestly, i'm a sales rep (male) my first obstacle when going into a potential customer who does not know me is the receptionist, if i make the wrong impression then she's not gonna tell me what i need to know.. so i'm always "nice". i told my wife this a couple of years ago and she hit the roof.... but now she knows i'm always honest.. know i swayed a bit on your question, but if you don't trust him or if he thinks you don't...well... then you already said he's guilty of anything before you acuse him.. so what's he got to lose by doing the inevitable?
if you hold a butterfly too tight then the first thing it's gonna do when you let go is fly away.....
does he know how you feel? what if you was to get a job in town as a barmaid or somethin... workin only weeekends... how would he feel?
not sure if i've actually helped at all, but hope some of what i've said may come in useful? good luck.. i undestand why your askin tho....
2007-01-11 19:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by The Dazzler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO sorry my husband is not a doorman but l am sure you have nothing to worry about. It is only a job remember. You do not have to be a doorman to see slutty dressed girls, they are everywhere. As long as you know you love him and he loves you right back, you will not have a problem. Don't worry unless you have good reason, which l'm sure you do not. Relax he's only working, don't let the little green eyed monster play tricks with your mind. Best of luck to you
2007-01-11 19:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband is not a doorman but my dad was for years,if this man realy loves u then u have nothing to worry about,he will probably look he wouldent be a man if he dident look and as for the flirting thats just part of the job they have be nice to people thats what u get when working with the public,like i said my dad done the door for years and he and my mom r still together now 30 years on, if he loves u don't worry about it.
2007-01-11 19:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by wiccawoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to keep him so satisfied, that he won't have much of a desire for those drunk, scantily clad girls he encounters night in and night out at the club.
I can understand your concern. I've done that job before and there is often much temptation. If you have a solid, happy and fulfillfing marriage, I wouldn't worry about it too much. If your marriage is shaky, now would be the time to try and fix it.
2007-01-11 19:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I cant blame you for being a bit insecure over it - Id be the exact same - particularly with some of the young ones around today!You have to just tell yourself that at the end of the night its YOU he goes home to and gets into bed with - and its YOU he married and YOU he loves!!
2007-01-12 06:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves you and he probably doesn't think himself that good looking either. Don't forget he gets to see the least attractive side of these girls' personalities - the staggering round in next to no clothes in zero temperatures, desperate attention-seeking behaviour, falling into the gutter and throwing up - hmm, sexy!
2007-01-12 03:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well doormen today its a profession and a busy one nothing gives them a buzz more than a doorman there to protect them and it gives the doormen the same buzz they are not all there to knock 7 bells out of people if he is going to stray he will do that's life bus drivers don't tap all the ladies on their routes its usually bravado take care
2007-01-12 02:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us... even you ;)...look at 'very good looking' guys.
He comes home to you. I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. You know your relationship with him.
So, unless there's another reason for your worries, just be there for him when he returns from work and make sure he knows he's got the best at home;)
2007-01-11 19:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Pure 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to sax, he can't even see a pic of you so whatever! Anyway, I expect he would get tired of seeing the same thing all the time, drunken girls who can't even walk straight are not very classy. Only drunken men fancy drunken women, don''t worry about it!
2007-01-11 19:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by redikorus 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋