Hi...i work in southern calif and i have had issues with this paticular superviser in the past...but today my brothers dad passed away in the middle of the night...i called in and informed my superviser that i would not be in today due to this....well he told me that he wanted me to bring proof that this happened....well how do you go about asking a relative for proff of your father in law passing...kinda rude i think...and second can he fire me if i dont bring proof of this...is it even legal for him to ask me to bring proof of this..any info on this would be helpful...thank you.
2007-01-11 11:26:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It is legal, very tacky and in poor taste but legal. Call the funeral home, don't ask your brother for this information, he is going through enough. The funeral home will provide you with a letter of proof, or you can provide you employer with the name of the funeral home, phone number and director or employee who is handling the arrangements.
Because it's your brothers Father in law, he doesn't have to legally give you time off, since it's not considered an immediate family member death. So, despite his poor taste, count yourself lucky he even allowed you to have the time off.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-01-11 11:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him the obituary from the newspaper - that's the usually accepted form of "proof."
Every company has the right to set rules for this sort of thing. Since it's your brother's father-in-law, you're probably looking at one day's paid leave. Should you choose to take more - they don't have to pay you. It should be set forth in your employee handbook.
Don't argue or you'll lose your job. They're running a business.
I don't mean to be mean, and I'm sorry for your loss, but this guy's (boss) a jerk and you can probably find better employment elsewhere. Do you work under a contract, or is it employment at will? If he wants to get rid of you, he will. Hopefully, you have a contract, but even if you don't, they don't HAVE to fire you for taking too many days. They could be a little nice about it - or are those days long gone?
2007-01-11 11:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the reason, your company can still consider it a personal leave of absence, and you will have to deal with your company's policy on that matter. I once had an employer like that, just a pain with no compassion.
I think it would be OK (although awkward) to ask your relatives for a copy of the death certificate, it's a common request for close family since many hotels and airlines offer discounts upon this kind of proof. Good Luck.
2007-01-11 11:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Smokin' Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just the state of the world we live in today. A few people lie about deaths to get the day off, so now everyone is suspect when calling off work for a death. Where I work we have to bring in a copy of the death notice from the paper as proof-then there is no question about it.
2007-01-11 11:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by periellen38 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fail to offer a usa/area, yet at the same time as the placement is contained interior the U. S., barring the existence of a settlement, she could have the ability to be fired for no reason by applying any ability. the U. S. has an employment-at-will insurance which limits the ability of activities to end that contained in terms of a worker walking off the interest or a boss firing a guy or woman (your female chum ought to ought to teach that she grew to become into fired subsequently of being a member of a secure form - i.e., by faith, race, gender, and so on.).
2016-12-12 09:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take your marriage license which shows your wife's maiden name or whatever and also the newspaper clipping that shows the relationship. The supervisor does have a right to request proof of a realtionship because your absence does place a burden on the company to fill your position.
2007-01-11 11:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually an obituary or death notice from a local newspaper will be accepted as proof. Take the entire page, it has the date on it.
If you don't provide some type of proof, you may be written up, depending on your history, it could result in termination.
2007-01-11 11:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get an obituary clip from the paper. That usually satisfies them. I have had to provide proof before and have used that.
And well yes its legal for him to ask, especially if your company provided bereavement benefits.
Yes it can be rude but well... thats how it is sometimes.
2007-01-11 11:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by sociald 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check your local newspaper for the obituary, or look it up in the online version of the paper
then try to find a union job,or a job where the your boss isnt an over the top prick.
i know most bosses are pricks to an extent, but there are many levels of prickdom
2007-01-11 11:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by chumpchange 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I'd think it is legal, but rude as you say.
What's more important is there is no trust left in the relationship, so you probably won't go far under this guy. Why not get a new job anyway?
2007-01-11 11:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by WJ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋