I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and he still respectful and kind. I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend, and we have made some great memories together. I am 100% sure that I love him, but lately I have been having doubts about our relationship. He's gone a lot because our colleges are 2 hours away from each other, and when we see each other its amazing. He was gone for almost a month, and I got used to a life without him, but I still love him very very much. he makes me so happy. For some reason I just don't feel the same enthusiasm, the butterflies are gone, and I don't feel the need to hang out and talk all the time. Is it just me wanting a little bit of extra space since we've been together for so long? Why am I having these sudden doubts? Am I over analyzing everything? Do I need to just go with the flow? Is the newness just wearing off? Is this a phase? Does every serious relationship go through this?
please and thank you for all of your support
2007-01-11 11:15:01 · 12 answers · asked by Manda * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think its great that you are in a long term committed relationship that is as strong as yours is. dont worry about it. i think the extra space aspect just shows the trust and confidence you have in the relationship and yourself. good for you. please stop over analyzing all this- thats what could lead to real problems. just enjoy your time apart- growing separately is just as (if not more) important as growing together. good luck.
2007-01-19 06:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Flowerchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are near impossible. It's hard to have love grow if your never near your love.
Some women think your supposed to be giddy all the time and if it's not magical 24/7 then they question it. love takes a lot of work and patience to get through bad and good times. You can still love him as a freind but if you never see eachother, it's not going to work. It's normal and it's sounds like you both should probably be good friends and move on, or talk about your feelings that you have and he can do what he can to make the situation better for you. Love is work.
I had the same happen to me and we worked it out by making the time we had together special and creating things we could look forward too. It was painful and took work, but now we're getting married later this year.
Communication is the key. Just leaving without talking it over and explaining your feelings is the reason people are so bad at relationships. He'll listen and you can work things out one way or the other. Good luck!
2007-01-11 19:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a phase that your going through and maybe its just that you miss him so much all the time. I dont think that you need anymore space, it sounds like you have enough of that. I think that the new feeling does fade after awhile, but that doesnt mean that you should leave him. I wouldnt act on your feelings yet. Take one day at a time and see how things go. If it was meant to be, then it will. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the two of you.!!
2007-01-11 19:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by pebbles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been feeling this?
Its very common for long term couples to feel this way about eachother, especially when they hardly see eachother.
Dont worry though. If you've only been feeling this for one month to two months, then its a phase.
But if it lasts longer than that, that means the love has gone away and its time to move on.
Ask him how he feels about you, and if he's been going through the same thing. Discuss it with him.
2007-01-11 19:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Honeymoon period is over!
It happens in every relationship. Try doing new things together of spicing up the relationship by trying new positions, massages etc.
Otherwise just take some time out - Time makes the heart grow fonder.
2007-01-19 06:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by leigh M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets see two years is a long time and maybe you really just need a break if you dont feel over the top for him anymore thats ok in a sense but if you love him stay with him maybe your just feeling that way because of the separtion every reletionshipp goes through it follow your heart but be careful
2007-01-11 19:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does.Relationships are work after the zing wears off. Sometimes people think infatuation is love.If u truely love him then u will talk to him and tell him u need alittle time to yourself. If u find yourself wanting to see less of him after he has giving u some space.Then it probably was just infatuation.Good luck
2007-01-11 19:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant tell you really but i think it might be time to move on yea its probably been a great 2 years together but the fire does dye down some times
2007-01-11 19:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on, a realationship like the one your describing dosnt come along very often.
2007-01-11 19:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by super_nova48200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax It will be fine
2007-01-11 19:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋