When we argue, he always calls me curse words and I never curse him. I've asked him to stop, but he won't. He pulls his fist back like he's going to hit me, but stops just short of my face. He never hits me, he just makes me think he is. He says he doesn't know how to express his anger, and that's just his way of getting it out. And sometimes when we are yelling, he gets 2 inches away from my ear and screams until my ear hurts. He's about 2+ feet bigger than me and it's hard to get away when he does that sometimes.
2007-01-11 10:43:58 · 36 answers · asked by Ihate R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
baby girl, get your running shoes on. if this is your bf you're talking about, then i suggest that you start running. what if he hits you, then what? he obviously comes from abusive household. you deserve better. don't you think? come on now, see the whole relationship from afar. can't you see it? there is no future with this guy. run, baby, run.
2007-01-11 10:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same thing and yes it is abusive. You won't know it until you get away from him and relize you forgot what a normal relationship was. He says he doesn't know how to express his anger tell him to buy a punching bag! You need to get away from this man before you get hurt. You can't leave him when he is there because you never know what he might do. Wait until he is at work and get out of there!
2007-01-11 10:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by corene D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this abusive behaviour, and it may only be a matter of time before he actually hits you. If he is making your ear hurt through shouting in it then he has already caused damage to your hearing...ears are very delicate mechanisms...( I'm partly deaf so I do know what I'm talking about) It would be in your best interests to leave this person before you end up a victim of physical abuse.
2007-01-11 10:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by sarch_uk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is some form of abuse. Its not healthy for you to stay in that relationship. Some people do curse, that part seems okay, but not to call you names or act like he is going to punch you. Aren't you scared that one day he will express his anger too much and actually hit you? I would recommend going to counseling with him or threaten to leave.
2007-01-11 11:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how some starts, first its threats and in your face, disrespectful language which number one shows no respect for you nor himself. This is all control and can increase with actual hitting and more and more put downs. I am sure you likely care for this person but take it from me get out now. He needs help with anger management and how to express himself in a healthier way
2007-01-11 11:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by wandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will eventually go too far.
I seriously recommend you two go for counseling. You should be able to go to a state or sponsored center to get the counseling for a reduced rate or even no fees.
I only say that as 90% of arguments have to do with money and there is no reason to make matters worse trying to get help.
Get Help. You need it.
2007-01-11 10:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by khanofali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is abuse! The best thing you can do right now, before it's too late, is to leave him, before something tragic happens. He won't change, if anything, it will probably get worse. I'm sure there is someone out there, that will treat you with the kind of respect and love you deserve. No one deserves to be abused, whether it's physical or mental abuse. Good Luck! My prayers are with you!
2007-01-11 11:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is that is his way of controlling you. To keep fear of him in you. It will not change it will get worse one day that fist is not going to stop in front of your face, he will hit you. Verbal abuse is just as bad it hurts emotionally and eventually you feel like what they are calling you.
2007-01-11 11:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not abusive, it's stupidity. I suggest you make certain you have good medical coverage, because this guy WILL hurt you. You already know that, but until he proves it by rearranging your face; you'll keep excusing his threats. When he does beat you up, you'll have the sheer gall to act like a victim. So, keep seeing this guy. Perhaps some other guy will find it sexy when you have black eyes and a split lip, and you'll have fun explaining to everybody that you can't understand how such a thing could happen to you.
2007-01-11 11:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I used to date a guy that did the same thing. He would get mad and raise his fest and then pull back. He did hit me once that I can remember and he would always grab my arms and leave bruses, but i would get out now because i was close to death befor i got out.
2007-01-11 11:07:48 · answer #10 · answered by bonham_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if I'd consider it physical abuse but it IS some sort of abuse. Also if its hard to get away thats a scary thing, what if he really loses his temper sometime and you can't get away. It's your decision what to do but be careful becuase it could turn to physical abuse fast.
2007-01-11 10:48:40 · answer #11 · answered by twinktoes7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋