I have been with this guy for 8 months now and we just found out we are having a baby, i am just about 6 weeks pregnant. At first he seemed in shock and now he seems excited, but we really haven't had a conversation about his or my expectations about the baby. He is 36 years old and has no kids while i am 29 and have 3 from a previous marriage. Anyways, lately i feel like something just isn't right in our relationship and we haven't had sex in over a month as well as he no longer calls just to see how i am and to talk to me and he never compliments me anymore. Our conversations seem very short and really don't consist of anything important. He used to not be able to keep his hands off of me and was always complimenting me and he is generally a very affectionate and romantic person until now. Am wondering if this could be do to shock of the pregnancy, is it my hormones or maybe something really is wrong. Open to any suggestions?
2007-01-11 10:34:17 · 8 answers · asked by angie a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would sit down and talk with him first. Sometimes it's something as simple as he just doesn't find pregnancy attractive. Or he could be so worried about how to "take care" of you and the baby that he is throwing himself into work or over stressing himself. I would have a nice long talk and be very frank with him. Don't beat around the bush, just say it plainly. Some men don't get subtlety very well. I hope all goes well.
2007-01-11 10:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by arfiegel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't think that I'm being mean by saying this but is it possible that he was complimenting you, being affectionate and romantic because you had only been in a relationship for 8 months? That's still such a young relationship. It's so new and you're still getting to know each other - everything is exciting and romantic. I hope this isn't the truth, but I'm afraid something might really be wrong. Just talk to him and see what's going through his head. Maybe he's just nervous about having his first child or something. I hope everything works out for you...good luck.
2007-01-11 10:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by crank726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a little more sensitive than normal and perhaps a bit depressed. It sounds like the two of you need to talk. It can be a little overwhelming for him, the two of you haven't been together for that long and since you are already a mom, you know what to expect, but he might be scared.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-11 10:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is scared of what is to come...with being a parent and all that goes along with it. You need to sit down and have a serious talk with him. Ask him how HE feels about the situation and let him know that you understand his anxiety. He doesn't have children and is probably having a hard time knowing how to act about it all. Just let him know that you care about his feeling to and that you need to know what he thinks. He is avoiding you because he doesn't know what to say...make sure that you let the conversation be about his feelings first and then bring yours into it as well. Good luck!
2007-01-11 10:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask him, tell him you feel that things have changed since you became pregnant and you are worried that something is wrong.
2007-01-11 10:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might be scared being it's his first child. He might just think things between you guys might change. and maybe he doesnt wanna get into anything bgeing as your pregnant...but my main thing is that he might just be freightened about the whole pregnancy thing.
2007-01-11 10:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk about it with him.
2007-01-11 10:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.
2007-01-11 10:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋