How long should it be before a commitment like engagement, then/or marriage should be discussed? What if the couple lives together, how long should they live together before they discuss it?
Basically, how many years do you think a couple should be together before discussing it?
2007-01-11 10:22:52 · 12 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Like an average, I've heard 2 years. Also, what is the most?
I've lived with my bf for 2 years and no serious talk.
2007-01-11 10:29:04 · update #1
There is no set in stone answer, you know. Everybody's upbringing, beliefs, situation, culture, background, etc. maybe different. I dated some girls for two or three years and never got married. Then, I dated my future wife for a year before getting married, but I knew right away I'd probaly marry her.
2007-01-11 10:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kalistrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the couple. I am with a man 25 years my senior and we have already talked about marriage. I am not really in a rush to get married. Some couples get married 2-3 months after knowing each other, just just go faster since they know what they want. Some couples wait 2 or 3 years before marriage. Other couples wait until they have more money-like me. Then again, who really does have enough money? I wouldn't discuss marriage within the first 4 months of dating this person IF you already knew this person for years...if you just meet this person...don't bring up marriage until 1-2 years. Men get turned off from that word.
2007-01-11 18:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a couple should date at least a year before becoming engaged. Then they should be engaged at least 6 months before actually getting married. They should know each other's families well and spend lots of time with them. You should move in with a guy after you marry him.
If you messed up and are already living with him, then you should be married within 1 year, maybe 2.
2007-01-11 18:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the relationship. Every relationship is different. It all depends on if you feel comfortable talking about engagement or marriage with them. I dont think It matters how long you have been together, just if you really feel like you could spend your life with them.
2007-01-11 18:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on where they are in life....still in school...working on personal issues...etc.
Moving in together IS a committment. Some people cohabitate forever and it works out fine.
I would say, in a best case scenario, at least a year before any kind of proposal.
2007-01-11 18:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case i was married 1 year after i met my husband, myself i was scared because i thought it was way too soon, but we're going on 2 yrs, and going strong. even if he didn't ask me to marry him i would still feel like i do today. so it really don't matter when or how long. It will happen.
2007-01-11 18:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by D T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time doesn't matter, all that matters is how you feel for eachother and that you know that those feelings are true. Can you see spending the rest of your life with this person? do you completely trust this person? When you feel it is when you should be discussing it.
2007-01-11 18:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Aunie Stina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think 1 year and 1/2
2007-01-11 18:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by shayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they both love each other and can trust each other to always be there and when they feel comfortable and are ready to make the commitment.
2007-01-11 18:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think time has anything to do with it, its all about the feelings that both people are feeling.
2007-01-11 18:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by manriquejbm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋