I Cought My Teen Daughter Having Sex What Shoutd I Do????

Question

she 14 and she thinks its a joke i dont wanna do anything for her to hate me i want her to make mistakes on her own but i dont want her to make too many

she 14 and she thinks its a joke i dont wanna do anything for her to hate me i want her to make mistakes on her own but i dont want her to make too many i grounded her but when i was growin up grounding me olny made me wanna go out and do it again but i liet he go out but i pit her up and i talk to the oarent of the persons house shes going over and tell her that shes not allod to leave unless its with her plaese help me

Answer 1

First give her some protection cause if she wants to your not going to stop her but talk to her and let her know the pros and cons of having sex and be sure to let her know even if you don't want to hear or say it tell her that if she were to ever get pregnant no matter the situation she can talk to you. Just don't yell at her for it or act disgusted just talk to her and try to find out why she did weather it was curiousty or pressure but just talk.

Answer 2

Well, you know what we were told : it takes two to tango . I would call on his parents absolutely immediately and inform them of the news. She is under age and that means contributing to the delinquency of a minor. Anybody touches my daughter, trust me , they are in BIG trouble .
Sure, it's easy to say don't be mad at her blah, blah, blah. You want to be a grandmother , I don't think so. They don't have the faintest idea what those raging hormones are causing on misery . I trust you are open about the subject in general and have a discussion in great detail . No rosy, flowery language .Lay it on the line . All the stuff other folks on here have told you already . Do it .
Make sure she is punished for her indiscretion . Don't be a pushover . No being alone with this guy . Now, most important to get her to a doctor and do not be embarrassed. Get her on the pill, it is a precaution .
If she is 18 you can forget all the good advice and hope for the best .
I went through a terrible time too . It all worked out in the end . Maybe they know more than we give them credit for . It is just so very bad to think about a pregnancy and a life in danger with all the STDs out there .
Good Luck .

Answer 3

First of all, if shes doing it then she isnt thinking it just a joke. Second of all, if shes old enough to know how to do it shes old enough to make her own decisions. Teens like to do what there told not to do because it gives tem the feeling of freedom. Shes going to do it weather u like it or not she going to do it some day and likly continue now. If you try to tell her what to do or sheild her from it shell just begin to hate u and do it more and worse things. Let her do what she wants an if something bad comes from it shell have to deal with it and learn the hard way. Dont try to sheild her from a sex life, believe it or not the kids who are put under house holds with lots of rules start craving freedom. The less rulls in a house hold the better. I had friends when I was younger and 1 of them was completly sheltered and lived under so many rulles. The 1st time she had sex was when she was 11. And my other friend had only a few rulles to follow just common scence and dicipline which is what kids should have and she stayed virgin untill she was 17. Shes probably afraid to ralk to you about sex because you sheild her to much from it. If you talked to her about it and not like aying DONT DO IT ITS BAD. Just talk to her about youre experiences then shell likely open up more. Give her a little more privacy and freedom shell turn out fine. For instance doing lil things can make her more trusting with u. Even knocking b4 u enter her room. Dont let her hav to much freedom still give her diciplen but try to understand her P.O.V b4 getting so crazy about it.

Answer 4

First of all find out how long it has been going on and does she have some form of birth control. Have her get a full ob/gyn exam and pregnancy test. Next put her on birth control if she isn't. Since you didn't state her age I can only guess from here. I would ground her completely for violating family rules. To me that means no computer, no cell phone (take it away), no going out anywhere with friends, etc. She has to go to school, but she would have to come straight home. NO BOYS period. If she is over 18 all of that is a moot point. I would also suggest counseling for her and you.

Answer 5

Get her one of those babies that they provide in school and say congrates your pregnant. I am of the opinion that sex should be saved for marriage, but whats done is done. Definatley talk TO her (not at her) about what has taken place. Let her know what your rules are for your home. And educate her as much as possible. You can give her the pro's and con's of both sides. I dont find that there is security in sex before marriage. Lol I wouldnt let her see that guy again and would definatley take away certain privacy privaledges, but my veiw dont work for everyone. Good Luck

Answer 6

Mere punishment is not enough in this situation because she does not understand the severity of what she did, especially if she thinks it is just a joke. Sit her down and talk to her about why she is doing it and what the consequences of her actions are. From STD's to pregnancy, to even a promiscuous reputation at school because I know ZERO boys that kept their mouth shut about sex. Educating her is the best thing to do, and try to do it without flying off the handle. Sit and talk to her as if she was an adult ( even though we all know she is not ) but that is the way she sees herself.

Answer 7

I think taking her to the GYN, and u talking to her about sex and stds is enough punishment for a teen lol ALso give her the preggo talk cause im sure u dont want grandbabies..

U cant punish someone for having sex, sex is natural and sure she is young but im sure u raised her right. Just educate her in everything so she isnt afriad to talk to u about it or uses her body as a boy toy.

GOod luck with ur daughter :-)

Answer 8

First take her to the doctor and get on birth control
Second, if you know someone with an infant, have her babysit
Third, If she thing sex is a joke, she is way to young to have sex. I think you should put in therapy. At least she might learn that sex is not funny.
How old the boy, can he be charge ? Not fair for the boy, but sex is not funny

Answer 9

Step up and take charge. Sit her down, explain that it is not ok and WHY, and then set ground rules. It's ok if she gets mad. If kids are not mad at their parents, then the parents are not doing it right. (or there is something wrong with the kid. hehe)

Take her to an abortion clinic to view discarded fetuses (if they allow it). Show her pictures of std's and show her a video of someone giving birth. Most of all, explain to her the bad things that will happen and WHY you don't want this to happen to her.

If you have to, drop her off at school, pick her up afterwards, ground her to the house. expl that actions cause reactions and if she wants to be an adult by having sex, she needs to act like an adult.

Answer 10

Talk to her about it, tell her out of respect to you it should not be done in your house, or other places where you might catch her. Explain about pregnancy, STDs and the complication with both. Tell her that she can always talk to you and encourage her to ask alot of questions. There really isn't anything you can do, other than make her see sex is over rated, until you find "the one" but i remember being 14, and if somebody told me that id laugh. but it is true!