We have a very small grp of friends, 1 couple is going through a divorce, which makes it hard for the whole group, well during this shes decided to sleep/have a baby with another friend in this SMALL group, and thinks no one knows about (we all do) She wants me to see her side of things, but doesn't want to see it from our side (the fence). I am completely against that she had this affair, and is now pregnant, but she is suppose to be my "best-friend" Do i look past this and try to remain friends, or stick to my belief that if i can't trust them- they are not worthy of having as a friend.
2007-01-11 10:02:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friends don't always have to agree with each other, that's the beauty of friendship.
2007-01-11 10:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this guy that she had the affair with married? if he was than yes she is the wrong and it would be hard to keep her around in the group.
Now if he was not than that is another story she is going Thur a divorce he is single and they had there fun now she is having a baby.
I am not sure what your definition of being a best Friend is but to me a best friend is there weather you make mistakes or weather you act stupid. there is a quot i have in my book that reads
A real friend are those who,when you made a fool of your self are made a bad decision don't feel you have done a permanent job, Unless this person has done something that has hurt you and your marriage or your family i would stand by her and i would be that what they call a best friend
2007-01-11 10:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be honest, and be her friend.
She needs a friend since she is obviously insecure, but she doesn't need people to lie to her to make her think it is ok.
Tell you that you do not agree with what she did, but she means a lot to you and you would like to support her as a person.
My husband and I just had to do this with one of our best friends who decided to start a relationship with a 15 year old. It actually worked better than you would think. He understood that we couldn't support the relationship, but he was so happy that we could be there for him.
2007-01-11 10:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to need your support but you definitely do NOT have to condone what she has done nor support it in any way. If she chooses to go with the guy she had an affair with I'd let her go her own way and let her know this is not acceptable to you but if she gets in trouble she can call you and you will listen. Never go back on your beliefs. Never change Biblical standards. PERIOD.
2007-01-11 10:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone can agree with what you think is right and you will see that a lot but you can stick with you beliefs and still have the same best friend
2007-01-11 10:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to expect your friends to be you, have your beliefs and morals and live the way you think they should, then you will soon find yourself without any friends.
It's her life, her decision, be her friend and listen and accept her for what she is and not what you think she should be.
If you can't do that, then find a new friend and I suggest see a therapist.
2007-01-11 10:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up what you know is right just to please someone else. You compromise yourself. However you cannot shun someone for what they do. Love the person not what they do? She needs to know that you do not agree what she did is right, and nothing she says or does will change that. You are still there for her in any other respect, but will not support her in any consequences for certain bad choices
2007-01-11 10:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by LaSperanza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be her friend. She needs you now. You are not always going to agree on everything but instead you need to be there no matter what.
2007-01-11 10:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your beliefs.
2007-01-11 10:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by wondering... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should still be friends with her, help her and suport her through her trouble times. but don't condemn her for what she has done. she may know that she has done wrong, but don't keep retelling her about it. forgive and forget her act.
2007-01-11 11:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋