Husband and I fight All the Time Now?

Question

I have been with my hub for 14 years and married 2. He had to do a career change which I supported him the last 2 years through school and he finally got a job, but we fight about everything. I am trying to be patient but I feel like I have done so much and he doesn't appreciate it and I fight with him about hanging iwth his friends all the time and not helping financially and he picks fights with me all the time lately cuz I have been more involved in my work and too tired when I come home to do much (well ya, cuz we need the money since I had to support him), he doesn't get it and we don't communicate well at all. That is our biggest problem. He won't go to a marriage counselor and I am at my last straw. We are like roomates lately, we don't talk much unless it is arguing and we just pass each other in the house. I just don't know what to do anymore. Every time I try or he tries to talk we explode about everything, current and past so we are getting nothing solved

Answer 1

he's probably sick of the relationship and is finding little reasons to get out of it. Be patient and ignore the little things.

Answer 2

I had the same issue - which resulted in divorce. I gave my ex chance after chance, offering councling together and so much.
We were together for 9 years and married for only 2 of those years.

It was hard but I finally said that was it and sent him on his way. Since then I have met a wonderful man that treats me with all the respect in the world. My ex has learned a few things and is happily involved with someone as well.

Start by going to a couclor yourself then bring him in for couple therapy - if that doesn't help... Well don't be hard on yourself if things don't work out. Stuff like this happens everyday and what matters most is if you yourself are happy.
Stay strong.

Answer 3

Well maybe you could write him a letter and ask him what he thinks of all the fighting. List your question and see if will write down his feeling ! It would be great if he would go see a counselor cus they can help alot. Do you have chirlden? Cause you both need to talk to someone. I do know it help with my life,

Answer 4

wow u both need some serious marriage counseling sounds to me like alot of resentment is going on.. i know u said he wont go, but i strongly advise that u go by your self, u wont be the first nor the last woman to show up by herself because a man was to macho to go.. but they will teach u the tools on how to handle the situation with him at home.. so please go even if he doesnt, that way if it still doesnt work, u can walk away knowing u did everything u could and can hold ur head up high, which is more then he'll be able to do..

Answer 5

hi i see things are quite bad just now. remmber the ealy days and why you got togher im sure by now them sweet fun memroies are very much fadded. really when they suffer so does the caring,the love for eachother and times get harder as you see now,its not to late just now its you two are putting your own first before the other and your love. problems will start if you let them then they just grow if know one trys to talk and work trough them yess we tend to work more less time for problems because theres not fun or love anymore and your moreless doing your own thing but just like when two ppl first meet like eachother theres no probs things grow they did once they could agaiin but it takes though care as you did when you first met remmber so talk as friends look to start again try from the start new and foget the past live like and forgive find togher allover again just like you once did from the start. and injoy togher.

Answer 6

If he isn't willing to work on the marriage then the marriage should end. No one can make a marriage work by themselves.