I don't know what to do. My husband treats me like dirt, I have a 2 1/2 year old boy, I'm 4 1/2 months pregnant, and all I can do is wish HE'D leave me....If I leave, he'll just find me and try to take the kids, or kill me or something. Last night he threw the t.v. on the ground (and ALL the DVD's), because the phone woke him up. He is a liar and a cheater, and I wish I would have been smarter 4 years ago when I married him. I make about $150 every two weeks and I am a full time college student....what the h@#L should I do? Anyone been with a controlling psycho before? I wish I could get out....I wish he'd do something stupid and get busted by probation so he'd go to prison for 6 years...that'd be great!.
2007-01-11 09:20:23 · 17 answers · asked by next PO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've called the cops on him when he broke a window out and threw our stuff everywhere....they didn't press charges...it isn't against probation for some reason.
2007-01-11 09:28:22 · update #1
I have stood up to him when he is like this and even punched him in the head when he spit on me. I guess the cops have bigger problems "there weren't any marks to prove anything."
2007-01-11 09:29:54 · update #2
Do you have family that you could stay with? If not, contact your local battered women's shelter (they are in the phone book). Even if he hasn't hit you YET, he is obviously violent and you want to have an escape plan in case he does ever get physical with you or your child. You don't want your son to grow up thinking that is an OK way for a man to act. Get away from him fast.
2007-01-11 09:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file police reports every time he does something. Also you should file a petition to have the court appoint you as the primary custodian of the kids there are lots of non-profit and public interest groups that can help. Also if you are afraid of him, get a restraining order or a protective order. You should definitely get out. The situation is bad for you, and can't be good for the kids.
2007-01-15 17:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by kittymimm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have access to the Internet, find a domestic abuse link. Don't wait until the smashed TV is you, your child or the one in the oven! You are not alone.
It takes at least 7 tries for a woman to leave her abuser. A woman is more likely to be killed when she is pregnant! Get out safely and soon!
2007-01-11 17:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl, you need to get out of there FAST! Call your parents, a friend, nearby church, or look for the nearest domestic violence center for women ASAP. You need to protect yourself and your child. Don't go head to head with you because you can get hurt. If he's on probation, try calling his probation office and talk to him/her and see what your options are. Don't get tired of calling 911. Keep calling them until they do something. Take care. Be safe.
2007-01-11 17:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's probably wishful thinking. You can always leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter in your city or somewhere else. In any case I would call the domestic abuse hotline for some help. They will be able to tell you what to do. Good luck.
2007-01-11 17:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way he is behaving, something will definately happen to him, but mabe it will happen to you and your children too. You need to get away from him, can you live with a family member.? You need to be near family somehow. A restraining order will just make him mad, and he won't respect it. You are not safe around this man. Call your family now.
2007-01-11 17:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever yo do ,don't hit him with your fist,use a baseball bat,i have been with some real control freaks,and they take your self esteem away,he probably thinks you wont leave because you are pregnant,hes an as@@@##$$%$,and your kids will learn bad things from him,get out now before its too late,my twin sister was killed by her husband,and he never showed any anger or violence,all she wanted was out,and he couldn't handle that,thank god he turned the gun on himself,and died too,be careful,and go to a shelter,i know its hard to do that ,but think of the safety of yourself and kids,they are great people,and their job is to help,may god bless and give you the strength to do the right thing,GET OUT!!!while you still can,oh tell his P.O. he needs anger classes and your afraid of him
2007-01-15 16:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by con55_98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to an annonymous shelter. They can't give any information and it's not listed. You need to get out of the relationship. It's not healthy for you or your children. You can get separated and put our a restraining order on him. If he violates the order, he gets locked up.
2007-01-11 17:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a way to get out. you may have to sit out of school for a semester or two just to get away. hon...you will end up in the hospital or dead if you continue to stay there. you have to search (the internet or phone book) for your local domestic or women's abused center. there is much more help that they can offer there than here.
2007-01-11 19:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order and get hlep from the police. But you need to leave this violent guy. because of all the stress he's putting you through you can loose your baby.
2007-01-11 17:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋