with me? He says he has a low libido, but he ran up over $100 on our cable bill watching porn. I'm not ugly and I am a freak in the sack... so what's up? I am a woman, and I have my needs!!
2007-01-11 09:18:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If all he spent was $100 for porn on cable, then yes he does have a low libido.
A freak in the sack, huh? Hmmmm...
2007-01-11 09:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your husband may be getting his needs met elsewhere. I am not trying to be negative and put you down, but you mentioned two signs in your question "he doesn't want to have sex with you" and "he ran up your cable bill watching porn." These two things would concern me if I were in your shoes. However, you can't just confront him without him getting defensive. So, I would ask him to go for a drive with you (let him drive because men feel more comfortable talking when they are doing something rather than just sitting face to face) and I would tell him exactly how you feel. Or, if you don't feel comfortable talking to him about it, you could always surprise him every once in a while. When he gets home, you may want to say something like, "meet me in the bedroom in ten seconds." Squeeze his butt every now and then. Tell him how sexy he looks. Men loved to hear things like this and have their egos stroked and then maybe he will feel like you want him and he will want you.
2007-01-11 17:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by hbunch11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you are a freak in bed? Have you two gotten "freaky" together or is it your own feelings about what you think you are? If you have freaked together then maybe the both of you need to sit down or lay down together and get everything out in the open while you still have a relationship. Something is being missed somewhere. Hopefully he is still attracted to you regardless of what you look like. If he isn't then he probably is thinking of someone or something (porn girls/free for all stuff) else and needs to realize where his priorities exist.
2007-01-11 18:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Xam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he beating off when he watches porn? that will make any man tired right after wards, why don't you put on a pair of white panties, sweatpants and a white cutoff t-shirt and go watch the porn with him? make yourself part of his fantasy, if you don't like porn have you told him? have you asked him why he likes it? this is called communication; another thought is you being a freak in the sac, if he likes porn then I bet he wants to be the leader in the sac but the freak in you just takes over, do you have your puby's trimmed or shaved (not a big bush) I don't know just trying to get you to think outside the box
What I do know is that your marriage will be on a downward spiral if you can't figure this out, weather it's a physical or emotional issue,
sound like he has a good sexually active woman ... lucky man!!
2007-01-11 17:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i know its hard to understand this, i have problems understanding it myself but its true, some men as they get older, although their equipment works fine when provoked, they dont feel the urge to have sex as much as they did when they were younger, it doesnt mean they dont like the mental stimulation of watching it or looking at a pretty girl ect.. just means they wouldnt act on it for sure.. they can find things sexy and appealing but for some reason the lil soldier just isnt up for the trip with out some major provoking.. so dont get upset its not u, and it is wrong of ur husband to be watching porn especially if he's not giving any to u.. but do realize the visual stimulation is different from ummmmm his stimulation, now if he's masterbating to it.. and not giving u any, then theres a serious problem cause now he's substituting the porn for u.. and that means theres not a real problem with him physically as there is mentally, and thats when u need to be concerned..
2007-01-11 17:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband ok? Man If my wife wanted to have sex all the time (which i'm finding out quite a bit on the questions asked here) then I would be in bed with my wife not watching porn.
2007-01-11 23:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is bored with the routine. Try roleplaying, bondage and what ever he is watching on cable. He'll have a low libido if he's maturbating to porn everyday too!
2007-01-11 17:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some where your husband has develop a porn addiction. You see the women on porn sites and in movies are just that fantasy. Men never have to worry about pleasing those women or not pleasing them. I guess its too much pressure to please a real life woman. I would watch the porn with him and find out what he truly likes and try to do that with him. It's worth a try. Good luck.
2007-01-11 17:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's watching porn, but not having sex with you? I can't tell you what's up, but I can share a story with you. My husband didn't like to have sex very often, and many, many times he would turn me down. It almost ruined my self esteem. When we did have sex, it was nothing to write about here. During our 4th year of marriage, I caught my husband taking care of his business in our living room around 11pm at night. We have three children who were asleep at the time, but in the house. I was disgusted and even asked him why would he be doing that when I was practically begging him to have sex with me? A few months later, I got a phone call from him saying he had been arrested. I was a wreck, I didn't know what to do. He wouldn't tell my why he had been arrested. I called a bail bondsman and he told me the charge was indecent exposure, but he didn't know the details. Turns out this idiot was arrested for taking care of his business in a Kohl's parking lot in front of a woman. Even though he swore he didn't do it, he plead guilty. After that, I caught him a few more times in the living room and kicked him out. There wasn't anything wrong with his "drive". And there sure isn't anything wrong with me. Be very careful here. My best friend's husband was doing the same thing your husband is doing. If men aren't having sex with you, but are having sex with themselves, there is a serious problem here. All men masturbate, that's normal. But it is not normal to replace sex with your wife with masturbating. I asked probably 100 men about what I went through and they all said that my husband (now ex) has some serious, screwed up problems.
2007-01-11 17:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by redbird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering can you do what porn women do ??? if you can do that you save 100 dollars on the cable bill. Don't get me wrong not make you like s l u t or w h o r e .... no no no, maybe that what he like about those kind of women... My wife does like Porn and wow make it easy for us not to feel like not want to have sex ya know.
But it good to see what he like and sit with him and watch and might be on to you and you gonna love the fun ride. Just don't make yourself more uncomforable just do what you feel and trust your husband smiling.
You not ugly..... guys don't see you he too busy thinking other women that his dream....
2007-01-11 17:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋