im pregnant again?

Question

i had a baby on november 17 but it died bcuz he was a preemie im 13 years old n im pregnant again i had an ept but it was faint im scared dont kno wat to do i kno im not having an abortion or adoption but is ept really sure please help i still have my heart in little pieces for the death of my other sons death please idk wat to do adoption or abortion is not a choice for me but please please help me...dont be mean/rude/nasty u get the point lol

how good are epts

Answer 1

Honey I think you really need to get some professional help I read 1 of you questions you said your baby was born on nov. 19 and died from sids I really am sorry for your loss. but I don't think you are ready to be a mother you need to go to the doctor and really get a physical if your not pregnant and you are sexually active and I guess you are you need to get protection immediately. I read your Q & A page

Answer 2

A faint line is the same as a dark line, if you weren't pregnant there wouldn't be any line. There aren't many options if you already decided that you won't do the abortion or adoption. It sounds like you already made up you mind that if you are pregnant you're going to have the baby, so I'm not sure what you're asking.

I'm a little concerned that you're only 13 and this is your 2nd child. You're body isn't and wasn't psychically mature enough to have a baby. You may end up facing the same heartache you did with the last one because of it. I know that you said abortion isn't or wasn't option but you're odds of having another preemie is really high, it wouldn't be fair for him not to be able to fully develop. I would next suggest that you look into better forms of birth control, you have so much life in front of you to have to be having kids.

Answer 3

I hate to say this honey, if you are 13 you shouldn't be having sex to get pregnant. You are risking YOUR life and the life of your child by doing this. Please wait till you grow up some before you try so hard to become a woman. And yes, you probably could be pregnant again if you have been having sex. At the very least go to planned parenthood and get on birth control. I am not trying to be mean, rude, or nasty. Just factual. This is exactly what I would tell my own daughter. Ok not exactly. I would slap the **** out of my own daughter then lock her in her dam room for about 4 more years. Or just go everywhere with her till she decided if she wanted more freedom she would earn it and earn my trust too.

Answer 4

What? You didnt learn the first time ?
What the hell is wrong with you, are you a mental defective or something. At 13 you are having a kid? ruining your as yet unfinished body and taking on responsibilities that you are not emotionally or physically mature enough to cope with.
Close your legs, you silly girl and grow up! You are just a hole for some creep to masterbate in. Is this what you want others to think of you. Perhaps this is all BS just to see the reactions of others. I can't believe someone could be so stupid as to not insist on practicising safe sex, especially after screwing up the first time! Abortion? worse than pregnancy at your age, high risk of infection and even death if not done properly.

Get a psych consult and a termination and stop feeling sorry for your self for being an idiot.

Answer 5

I don't want to be rude.... but its very hard not to be. You are much much much to young to have babies! Your body isn't fully developed yet and if you are pregnant again the chances of your body not fully developing another child is rather high!

The rate of false positives in ept is so low. If you have a positive one the chances are 99% that it is correct.

I'm so sorry about your loss, 13 or 33 this has to be hard. Please take care of yourself with this next pregnancy and do everything your doctor tells you to do. I wish you both a lot of luck and I'd hope you wont be having sex again for a very very very long time.

Answer 6

ept is usually pretty accurate but your hormones may just be off since you just gave birth. I would suggest waiting a few days then retest. I would also suggest waiting before you have intercourse again for a while. You have plenty of time and as you've discovered, there is a lot that comes with sex. Stay encouraged!

Answer 7

Hunny, your a little to young to be having a baby, i'm not trying to be rude, nasty or anything but hunny, ur still in middle school and the others are right, ur still developing and your WAY to young to be having sex, i mean you should focus on finishing middle school & high school before you even have a baby, their alot of responsibility and very expensive, if i were you, i'd take second thought on adoption because there are alot of couples out there that would LOVE to have a baby that they cant conceive children of there own. Good luck to you and your baby

Answer 8

Only 13 and pregnant so soon after the loss of a previous baby? Oh, my dear, your body is still developing; technically you are a child. Your body isn't ready to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth; you'll probably have a lot of complications during your pregnancy, and during the delivery as well. Think it over, seek the help and advice of somebody whom you trust. Hope you the best of luck, do what you think may be the best for you and the baby-to-be.

Answer 9

I'm not trying to be mean, but you need professional help. Reach out to someone...your parents, your siblings, aunts, grandparents, guidance counselors, doctor... anyone who can teach you about sex and it's true, meaningful nature. Sex is for married people who love each other and are vowed to each other forever. Only with the long term, monogomous marriage vow comes the true love that brings sex true joy.

At the very least, you need some safe sex education. 13 is way to young to be having sex. You could be pregnant, if you didn't use protection. You could have STDs, if you didn't use protection. None of us know if you are pregnant or not. All of us know that you are scared and feel alone. That is a very sad place to be. Please reach out to someone you know that can lead you to the confidence that you truly need.

Answer 10

Go for adoption if you can, abortion will be another can of worms you don't want to open. especially because you so deeply feel the connection to your first babe. Please use birth control, or take a few years off before you have any more sex. It is so hard on your developing body to have kids this young sweetie.